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No Contact - What does it mean?
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haha, great ones starry! I like the idea! Becky, there's a long and bumpy road ahead, but keep going! Do not stop and look back. OK maybe you can stop, but dont look back:) It is a process, and every little step takes you either further into the bri
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Psychopath In The Family
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Agreed, no good will come out of this. Think what you really want becky. You dont want to just let him know, you actually want him to react. And not even just react but react in a certain - human way. This wont happen. He is not human. There is no
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No Contact - What does it mean?
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A technique I've used and liked, has been to imagine turning down the sound on them, like a TV. You can turn it down so much you can eventually mute them. And then once you've done that, imagine shrinking them in size until they're really tiny.
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No Contact - What does it mean?
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I'm trying to act as if they don't exist....as if they are nothing....nothing except a blob of skin taking up space....lol..that actually makes me laugh!..I hope the next is time I see this blob of skin driving down the road I can think of ghostbuste
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No Contact - What does it mean?
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Thanks.......
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No Contact - What does it mean?
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I live and work within 2 miles of my ex psychopaths new victim work place and apt.. (I have to drive by it at least 5 times a day)( i've tried different routes but it's much farther out of my way...it just reminds me of why i'm taking the long way..
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Psychopath In Your Life
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Dianne...I take full responsibility for my sons behavior....Because I was at a very vulnerable place in my life...I was raising three children completely on my own and not having dated anyone in 12 yrs....I was delighted when my ex psychopath came i
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Psychopath In Your Life
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Hi Maree, welcome to our community. You have said some very wise words, it is only natural that a mother would want the father in their children's lives, however when a Psychopath is involved it is best to get your children to safety and out of his
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No Contact - What does it mean?
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This is for you Becky and all those reading about what to do if you live near the Psychopath in your life. Di
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Psychopath In Your Life
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Becky, I am so sorry you had this contact, it must have been horrific to see him while you are still in the no contact process. I think Starry has a great suggestion. Perhaps start thinking him as "nothing", he is nothing, he doesn't care
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Psychopath In Your Life
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And you are doing a great job
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Psychopath In Your Life
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Sure I can try that.....I have been trying so hard to avoid him as it was!....That's actually why I asked my friend to take a ride with me yesterday....We even got lost and almost ran out of gas to get to this little store that one of my clients had
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Psychopath In Your Life
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Is there a way of thinking about all of this that makes you feel in control? Like, if you say to yourself that every time you have any sort of contact with him you're giving him more ammunition?
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Psychopath In Your Life
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Starry and Dianne i am so upset.....long story short I was out in the middle of nowhere with my friend at a country store about to have a sandwich and in comes the psychopath..!!He lives nowhere near there! I blew it! I was shaking....I asked to ta
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Psychopath In Your Life
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You're doing brilliantly! The more you try the easier it will get...I promise.
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Psychopath In Your Life
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I'm trying.....i'm trying.........thank you starry!
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Psychopath In The Family
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Hi Liz,Quote: I have been having some very down and overwhelmed moments. I must get back to more self protection, although I thought I was doing that. It is a work in progress, keep finding your center and be in the present moment. Giving thoughts
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Psychopath In Your Life
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It's only natural to feel anger and outrage when we've been threatened or betrayed in some way. This is what they feed off. And they'll keep needling you in whatever way they can that reaction from you, so they can keep feeding off you. And when t
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Psychopath In Your Life
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Thank you Starry........
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Psychopath In Your Life
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When you react with utter indifference and walk off in the opposite direction, that's when they lose interest in you and go and look for another victim somewhere else. If you give them the merest flicker of a reaction, they're onto you like a ton o
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Psychopath In Your Life
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Thank you Dianne....you are so right....he didnt give a second thought to how any news would affect me.......Is it possible for them to get a clear message to stay away?....maybe that's what he sensed from me.
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Psychopath In The Family
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Hi Dianne I am so glad the nightmare is over for you and you are able to move on. Sounds like a horrid battle over many years. The peace must seem very sweet at this time. That is so sad that you could not attend your Mom's service or have any of
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Psychopath In The Family
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Becky I have to agree with Dianne. At the very least letting rip at him as to how you feel will only give him the satisfaction of letting him know he managed to get to you again. He will NOT feel any remorse or regret for his behaviour. It will al
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Psychopath In Your Life
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Hi Becky, personally I would kiss the ground that he hasn't contacted you in 4 months, that in itself is a victory for you. We need to get you stronger so if he does make contact you will be in the space to be able to just hang up. Try and focus
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Psychopath In Your Life
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THANK YOU DIANNE....for responding so quickly!....I really appreciate your help.....It's been 4 mos and he hasnt tried to contact me at all....I can't help but think he purposefully wanted me to get upset when my daughter told me...and about the fact
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