My P said I had never experienced heartbreak, which is true(until she broke my heart). So, she said now I know how it feels! as if she'd had many heartbreaks in her life. However, she had never actually been with anyone before me. How could she have been "heartbroken" by someone if she had never actually been with them? Her biggest 'heartbreak' was when she had a crush on a high school teacher and he didn't want to have sex with her?! She still writes about him in childlike words of admiration in her diary even 12 years later!

I don't think one can be "heartbroken" over someone you have never actually been in a relationship with. Isn't heartbreak when you have loved and lost? I think she sees 'heartbreak' as liking someone and not being able to get them, that her desires and needs were unmet. Is that how psychopaths define 'heartbreak', as not being able to conquer or win someone over with their pity play or flattery? Is 'heartbreak' the isolation they feel and inability to connect with others?

Hi, was she guessing you never had a heartbreak, what was the context. It does seem odd to compare a youthful crush on a teacher to a real heartbreak. It sounds more like living in the past. She sure seemed very capable of giving you a huge heartbreak. Truly sad.

Breaking someones heart and then minimizing it like you were lucky to have this lesson, it appears she was comparing her heartache to yours. Did you get the idea she had some point to this, to brush you off or the meaning?

Di