Hi, lightening is hitting so will be back later. They are born that way and yes genes do play a role. I can understand your concern. be back in a bit. I hope you feel free to speak your mind here, we care and will listen and share. Many times just getting validation and seeing it in writing helps.
You won't turn into your mother, the conscience forms between 3 -5 years old so you are out of the woods on that happening.