Today I watched a my sister the psychopath was taken away by an ambulance for a mandatory psych eval. She was diagnosed only a couple of weeks ago, but there was no rest there. Friday she blew up into a rage at the confrontation of some elaborate lies. She ended up packing a trash bag of clothes and stormed out in her pajamas and started walking down the road. She told us not to contact her or anyone she knew. So we didn't. We didn't call her, we didn't answer her phone calls, we didn't answer her texts even when she started threatening with suicid. We simply showed the police and they told us that if she showed back up we needed to call them.

This morning she had someone drop her off. She rang the doorbell a hundred times before the police got there, but we ignored her. I was proud of my dad because he is finally starting to realize how she has used and manipulated him. The police had us get a court order to have he evaluated, and we go in for the hearing tomorrow morning.

I'm nervous, but since she's been diagnosed, the doctors are being more scrutinizing and careful. Her husband is finally standing up to her and declaring her an unfit mother. We are finally going to stand together as a family against her to get her out of our lives. It's a small victory, no matter what happens tomorrow. The kids are safe with their father, she is out of our house, and we've already cleaned her stuff out of our room. It feels like a great dark storm has passed, and while this isn't over, I feels like I can breathe.

Congratulations on your small victory! That must feel like quite a relief to get her out of your life! Now you have more time for yourself and the people that really matter in your life! You can count your blessing, too, that at least the father can be a good parent to the child.

Sunkensub...

That is no small victory.. that is huge.

You know, maybe through increased awareness of this condition these people will be called out more often.

Obviously your sister makes it hard not to lock her up.. she's pretty aggressive in her behaviors, so there's not much of a choice. But it's a start.

Congratulations.... you and your entire family deserve applause. and the authorities.

Thank you

Well, it went as I expected. The psychiatrist laughed at us and her lawyer picked at every word. They let her go because they don't believe she is a threat to herself, despite her diagnosis. So my parents left her there at the hospital and didn't give her a ride. Of course she showed up in a taxi at the house a few hours later, telling us that she told the truth about everything to the hospital and they assigned her to an outpatient drug rehab... woot...

Nevertheless, my dad told her that she wasn't welcome here, and it was so nice to see him stand up to her. He told her that if she couldn't find a place to live here in town, he'd buy her a bus ticket wherever she wanted to go, except to the state her kids are in. Now she KNOWS that she has no house of cards left here. No more lies no more control.

Supposedly she just got on the phone with her husband and gave him a sob story (trying to get back into his life I guess). I can only hope he's as strong as we have been.

Thanks to all for all your stories and advice. Reading everything here helped us in showing my family that they need to cut her off and not let her back in. They have made a pact not to talk to her or see her unless it's on their own terms.

Wow, what a huge leap forwards for you and your family. Congratulations!




This is really interesting to me. I've always thought how darn hardy my dad is, despite all the abuse he seems to put his body through. I always half joked that he seemed to be outliving everyone else around him and he would be the last to go.

I've also read so much about the suicide threats they make on this forum.

I'm now wondering where the truth lies in all of this. I mean, my dad seems to put his body through all sorts of abuse, but really, he's all about self preservation. His priorities are really different from mine (or from any of ours, I would guess).

What comes first is for him getting what he wants from other people. And using everything and anything to get what he wants from other people. The means don't matter, even his own body. It's all fair game as far as he's concerned.

So the suicide stuff, well, I think it acquires a totally different aspect from this viewpoint.