I have only just realised what my true situation has been for the past 21 years, wow writing that is really hard. I googled How do you know if someone is a Psychopath. When I got to the part of Bizarre brain waves from some parts of the brain and none from some other parts.Reading on my jaw hit the floor Pseudoneurolepsy(falling asleep suddenly)Loss of sense of taste or smell, varying degrees of incontinence, unexpected sexual arousal, coupled with all the more noticable lack of emotions, there was my proof, no more guessing, no more gut protection, it's official. Finally I can begin to sort out all the horrible things that have happened to me over the past eternity. I really need as much information on this as I can get, so it can help me. Don't think I could write my story yet but.... Is it a good idea to go to a professional person, an expert in this area? A few years ago we had counselling intiated by him,(double life, in another state) but that was to get me back on track and he fooled the counsellor very well, the sesions ended badly with him being caught out on a lie and an explosion ensued. Oh yeh, I paid for my counselling sessions as I went and then ended up paying for his on a $15,000 credit card bill surprise as well. I want to try to understand the behaviour and what motitvates each bizarre behaviour. Also the sexual behaviour, litimless appietite and if that is what his brain is like who is endanger from that.

Hello to you. I'm sorry you've had such a long, difficult time. It sounds almost unmanageable.

What you are describing doesn't really sound like a psychopath. It sounds more like the person has a brain injury or other neurological disorder. You mention incontinence, involuntary sexual arousal, and narcolepsy, and those are all symptoms of an injured brain. A lack of proper emotion would also go along with a brain injury.

Perhaps a neurologist or psychoneurologist could help you better than a psychologist.

I'm just an amateur, but have done a mighty lot of reading over the years because my husband has a brain injury (from an auto accident). I hope you can find help.

blue heron

skyela,
I would agree with BlueHeron that I'm not sure what you are describing is psychopathy.

I searched online for the passage you referred to "Pseudoneurolepsy(falling asleep suddenly)Loss of sense of taste or smell, varying degrees of incontinence, unexpected sexual arousal, coupled with all the more noticable lack of emotions" etc. What I found is that the information you are referring to is from a medical text 100 years old. The psychopath I knew did have visual auras (see spots in her vision) and incontinence at a young age, so I saw a few similarities there. However, I think there is much more current research on psychopathy you should look into.

A good place to start to look for current information on psychopath could be the reference section of this forum.
Best of luck in your continued search to find the answers.

Thank you for your reply, I would like to tell you a little bit of my story, not much good at knowing where to start and how to say it. Let me say that I am completely cut off from any friends and my family will not have anything to do with him.

He returned after living interstate for a job where he would come home as often as he could, I found out for 18months he had a girlfriend, the girlfriend sent me a letter he had written to her which was meant to turn the table meaning him back living with me and for him to visit her. I investigated more and found more women. One he had told he was returning to Queensland due to his prostate cancer, dieing of course. (which he doesn't have)He never admitted to one thing, they were just friends or company because I had made him pay back a debt, he had to be there so it was my fault. After some time I asked him to leave, his amazing attempts to get me back eventually worked again. What happened next was he then talked me into counselling, he was living at his mothers and visiting, one day he announced he had booked a trip to china when I had asked him to leave and now couldn't get out of it.

As there has been allot of travel in our lives this was not that unusual, he went off to China and returned, three days after coming back from China he was back having visiting, playing the family man, having sex with me. Still living at his mothers one night when he knew I was alone, he told me he had married someone in China. I am leaving out the aftermath of each one of these situations. Again he used my daughter to get back close where he now said he didn't get married. My daughter knew he had used her to get to me and was very upset. But his amazing charm won out again, So off we go again. I manage to sell our property and move away, for six months it looked like I was in the clear but one day when again he was soooo charming and believable, he declared his undieing love, how I make his heart melt when he sees me, that one really got me.

I am once more back in it again but this time I look for all the lies ect. It turns out this time there is a Japanese lady he is engaged to that came out to visit for two weeks, and a chinese doctor, these are all intelliegent women. The Japanese lady had been given the engagement ring he had given and used when he married the Chinese lady. Can you imagine what happened to the poor Chinese lady, she divorced him but had given up her job thinking she was going to a different life.

The Japanese lady ended up in hospital and financially in trouble. He never blinked an eye. These were three very independent, educated, intelliegent, women. Well by the time I realised that the Japanese lady existed he had promised my(our) daughter a trip to Disneyland and to help her get back into the family sport of ice skating, he had her hook line and sinker. He had paid very little attention to our daughter until she was a young lady, now he knew how to use her against me. The day the penny really dropped was one night after having sex I asked him why he went to china and did what he did. He said it was to get back at me for the two Christmas's before. one when I asked him to leave and the other when I had asked him to be at home for Christmas day and a friend of my nieces had come and was clearly interested in me, nothing ever happened.

I said to him how could he possible believe that those two things were anything like what he has done to me. I think I read something like the ice that runs between their veins. Anyway as you can see I left out all carnage and mess of what happened to me along the way. I have only survived due to a my two wonderful sisters. Now I think I am in real trouble, I see the lies, he is very frightening, cold as cold could be one minute and the most charming and what I thought was loving. but I do not believe he can love. He would tell me at least three times every day he loves me and I am expected to tell him back. He does not understand any social behaviour. There is no remorse. At times almost a scary grin of achivement.

Does this sound like a Psychopath?

Thank you very much for your reply, I will look in the references and start reading. Could you have a look at my previous reply and see what you think.

Skeyla,

Yes,his behavior certainly does sound psychopathic. Hopefully, you and your daughter have escaped his grasp!

My story with a psychopath involved similar international intrigue, living in different countries, and being cheated on and lied to from afar. So, I know how painful that can be, especially when their good days seem so good, but when they seek revenge against you, it seems so bad. Their dark side is pretty disturbing.

It seems I need to do alot of reading as I still have a need to understand what motivation or what reaction is behind each destuctive situation. Can you get those answers from a specialist in this area. As I really do not want to pay someone allot of money when they really do not understand what a psycopath is about. I do not want to tell my story to have someone say I should feel okay about myself I want someone who understand the mind of a Psychopath and why they do what they do. It seems to me that so many do the same behaviour. Most of the stories I have read about the person seems to have had some professional help. The question is did those professionals just listen to the story and interject or could they say how a psychopath's brain works. No two people are the same but it is incredible that their is a group of people that seem to work in similar behavioural ways. I guess that such things like
1. How or why does a Psycopath only feel close to another person by using sex?
2. What do they really think love is?
3. What is it in their brain or themselves that makes them enjoy others pain?
4. Do they set out to create that pain or is that a by product?
5. When they have created such pain in another person is it pleasure they get from watching the result????
6. Is it the chase to get that person back that excites them or did they stuff up to have to repair?
7.Why do they leave a trail of hurt or evidence that relates back to the original hurt, when it was something they took great lengths to withhold from you in the first place but then leaves it in your face, does that give them pleasure.
I know I am such a beginner in this, but I would like to know if someone has figured this out or am I asking the wrong questions.