Hey guys, I'm new here.

It's been two years since I broke up with my psychopath boyfriend. We were together for 3 years, and with time it became obvious he was a compulsive liar. I found out he had a 4-year-old daughter, the office where he "worked" has never existed - and he made up his bosses names and actual work situations - among countless other lies, about big and insignificant things, but with so much detail one could never suspect he was making it up. During our relationship, he always found a way to make me feel guilty, or to make me feel like a slut, I was even depressed for a few months, always blaming myself but feeling so lucky to have this "angel" in my life even if I was unworthy of his love. He had total control over me, he had my email and facebook passwords, he made me break up long friendships, he knew everything about my life and my family, he even somehow made me give him money to put in an account somewhere and I never saw this money again. I was very young (18) when we first started, but I was never stupid - although after reading all this it may seem like I am retarded. But who's had experience with a psychopath knows how they're skilled with manipulating.

Anyway, recently I found out he's been spreading lies about me and my family, just as he told me many stories (untrue of course) about his ex. Since he was close to my family for 3 years, I think his words are credible to other people. I sort of know his current victim (his new girlfriend), and I've thought about telling her all the truth about him. I don't know if I should because I think if he found out he'd find a way to distroy my life, or hurt me, I don't know if he has an inappropriate picture of me or something.

I read some of you telling that the psychos, after being dumped, have threatened to kill themselves. When I dumped him he accepted, but i don't underestimate what he's capable of. Some advice on what to do? Should I just let go? Does any of you have something to share about what the psycho did after the realtionship was over?

Hi Lanvin, please, you are far from being retarded, thankfully you got away from him.

It is impossible to defend the indefensible when they spread lies about you, it happened to me and about ruined my life when everyone believed the horrific lies.

It sounds like those close to you are believing his lies, just move on and hold your head up high. If they believe him over knowing what kind of caring person you are I would just chalk them off of your life, maybe someday they will figure it out but you have NO reason to spend your time defending his lies.

I would get off of any social media so he can't track you. There is a section here about the perils of social media, it is bad enough but when you have a Psychopath in your life, get rid of those accounts. Even when you think things are "hidden" don't count on it, Facebook tramples on all your privacy rights.

I am sure other members of our community will share their views of telling the next victim, don't do it you will only be putting yourself on his radar. They have a way of getting even people close to you to believe the lies, don't bite and defend yourself. Everything you say will more than likely get back to him.

Don't think for a minute he would commit suicide, he is much too busy ruining the lives of every victim he has in his clutches. Frankly and I don't mean to sound cruel but it would make the world a better place if he did kill himself, the odds are low that he would, many times they use this as a tool to get back into a victims life.

Get your track shoes on and run away and don't look back. You are not responsible if people choose to believe his lies about you. You know you are a good person and if they get sucked in that is about them and him, NOT YOU.

Di

He is no "angel" but an evil person. You deserve better.

There is an old saying. It ends with "You can't fool all of the people all of the time."

Narcissicm is often a trait of psycopathy. Narcissists are very protective over their victims and will go to great lengths to keep them within the web of deceit. It's a cult mentality.

Your ex can tell all the lies he wishes but in all honesty, he won't be able to convince anyone for long. Psycopaths have no ability to gauge the repercussions of their actions, and their lies often catch up with them.

Once the psycopath is caught in a lie, he or she is never trusted again. This is why they tend to lead a nomadic life. They eventually shoot themselves in the foot and must go elsewhere to start over.

Dianne is correct, it's highly unlikely he'll commit suicide. Psychopaths are full of self-worship and greed. More like it, the suicide "threat" is as bogus as everything else he's said and done. It's just a ploy to keep using you as a victim.

Don't you believe it. I wish you the best on this.

Thank you for the replies Dianne and F Wright. I'm happy I can share these situations now.

What intrigues me is that he hasn't tried to contact me for a year now, he's clearly over it, he has a new victim. It seems like he's doing this for his own sadistc satisfaction.

Well, I hope he can't fool all of these people much longer. Meanwhile, i'm have my track shoes on.