Hey, i just recentyl found this great blog that I wanted to share:http://mindfulconstruct.com/2011/02/18/75-things-people-say-to-shut-up-your-feelings/
Its about emotions, and how to work with them, I bet many of you will find this helpful.
For me, it was amazing, coz most of the stuff thats written there Ive gone through and I can relate to that. And I agree 100% that emotions are NOT to be surpressed.
I've had a rough 3 days, stress at work and this nostalgia kept me really down. I couldnt concentrate much. I felt so lost, like I have not in a long while. But today I just let it all work itself, and it did (I've been doing this for a while - got to that which is described in the blog intuitively). I just let those emotions raise in me, and there were a lot of them, also some jealousy, which I hate, and I kept asking those questions 'why am I feeling this way?', and all of a sudden, when I just relaxed and accepted those feelings, an answer came to me, so simple and so true - 'because he treated you like [censored], and you dont mean a thing to him, and he doesnt care a single bit about you'. And it really, really set me free. I felt this enormous relief. I still feel a bit sad today, but its OK (i had a great day after work).
Sometimes I fear those answers, but they always are helpful. Just something so simple - I have every right to be sad, and even cry, and even scream about it if I have to, because I was psychologically abused by a closest person. And I WILL cry about it and I WILL be sad, for as long as it takes! And everyone who doesnt like or understands that can get the f.. out of my life because I don't need them.
I'd rather cry alone through my whole life even, than have another person tell me to 'move on'.