So I've been gone for a while. I decided to lay low and not divulge any info online anywhere until I was sure I got my peace bond against my ex (which is basically a restraining order lite lol). He was served by the police last week and his court date is this week. I have to go to court after his date but only to get updated on the situation and speak with someone from Victim Services.
After I went total No Contact things began escalating after about 3 weeks. He was showing up to my games, leaving hand written notes at my house, emailing my friends- he even called my parents. No matter what he did I never contacted him or let him contact me. When he called my parents I felt that was the last straw, so that's why I went through the courts.
For those that are struggling with NC- push yourself to do it. I too missed my ex and desperately wanted to contact him, but the 3 or so weeks I forced myself to leave him alone seemed to be what I needed when he finally started trying to draw me back. Each time he tried to reach me and each time I resisted it gave me that much more strength and I was able to fully realize he's sick without a cure. I'm sad for that but it's no longer my problem and I just want him out of my life now.
I don't know what's going to happen next; I wonder if he'll actually leave me alone or if he'll escalate. If he escalates I now have grounds to call the cops and have him arrested. Yes, it really does go this far with these kinds of people. I've read that cluster B personalities don't know how to do closure so they keep returning, over and over and over.
So that's my little update. Hopefully I'll get caught up on the site soon.
I hope you're all staying safe and keeping well.
EDIT- Oh! I wanted to mention that I know some of you may still be looking for therapists and/or counselors. I guess when I go to visit the Crown Attorney they'll have someone repped from Victim Services... so maybe that would be helpful for any of you. I already found a therapist on my own but if I didn't have one I'm sure I'd find this useful.