I am feeling emotionally drained and exhausted today, having spent all day in Court yesterday.
My psychopathic ex-husband and I are divorced, with a 4 year old son. He abandoned me for another woman when our son was weeks old, and was having an affair with her when I was pregnant. He has since married her, and I remarried last year. When I remarried, he starting having our son, every other weekend - but was not interested before. I have always been the primary carer.
He is in the Army, and is to be posted abroad in September 2013 for 6 months. He has clearly been manipulating his new wife, who I have never met, as she put in a 'contact order' to the Court, saying she still wants OUR son to spend every other weekend with HER, when his Father is working abroad with the Army? She and he forced me into Court, and I thought she would have no chance, as did my Solicitor. Guess what? The Judge ordered that she can have OUR son, every 3rd weekend, and one full day on the other weekend? She is not a Mother herself, and I am shocked at this outcome. I can now do nothing - a contact order is in place. The Judge was completely on my ex husbands side, and made me out to be a minor part of the proceedings?? He convinced his lawyer that this was vital for our son, and I was not even considered. How can this be?
He has been pursuing me for years, trying to ruin my life, threatening to kill me and to go for full custody of our son, which terrifies me. Our son HATES going to his house for weekends, and cries his heart out when he has to go. My new husband is lovely and very supportive, but as you all know, its hard to understand a psychopath unless you have experienced their cruelty first hand.
Has anyone been through anything similar? I thought Step parents had no rights - it seems they are given contact over the biological Mother? My ex-husband has manipulated his new wife and the legal system, into thinking this is in the best interest of our son?
When will the new wife see him for who he really is? Will he EVER leave me alone? What can I do to stop him pursuing me and costing me thousands of pounds, which I do not have?
I am so confused, any help/advice/support would be appreciated.