I never reached any level of abuse in the relationship. Actually, I was a very important trophy and an item for this strategy, so:
1. RED FLAG 1 - "too good to be true" - Like the person who created this flag wrote, no conflict, total connection is something to be suspicious of
2. RED FLAG 1 - Fake history is described with rich detail. There's research on that: false statements are richer in detail that true ones. If (s)he is a good writer, like this one who caused me to be here was, it is literary material (I'll tell you later my very machiavelic plan of using his e-mail essays as part of my book: he has ZERO legal chances of challenging it and his narcissism will be hurt to the bone)
3. RED FLAG 3 - Extreme bad luck. If you have a quantitative educational background, you know there's something fishy there. But, as the recent mastermind con artist said, "people need to trust, so they overlook the red flags"
4. RED FLAG 4 - Incoherence. But you need to be paranoid to demand coherence from all your acquaintances, so they sail by