Dear Jan
My Psychopath mum

and (me, a diluted Psychopath

):
I know I have inherited Psychopath traits and fight against the urge and have just realised all of this Psychopath stuff. I just thought my mother was a controller and behaved badly. At XMas the penny dropped and I've not seen her since. This is all new to me. I have answered how we act/feel. It may help you understand more, talking to a Psychopath who knows and wants to escape the Psychopath thing, LOL!
Likes one to one relationships otherwise triangulates or acts out -

yes, monopolises me, tries to exclude my friends, what I want to do (

I used to want exclusive relationships and may have pointed out faults in friends of the other person)
Doesn’t sing, dance or listen to music - she does, and plays it, used to go to clubs to dance (I don't sing and would not clap when more Psychopath, when young. I dance a little with my daughter)
Doesn’t tell or understand jokes - yes (I don't find them funny, but will find weird things funny)
Asks if I’m being sarcastic, joking or I really mean something - yes, gets 'hurt' (I thing people are having a go at me when they say things that I feel are unacceptable)
Doesn’t laugh at humorous TV programmes but will laugh at people hurting themselves - maybe, watches gameshows and gets angry when I get bored (don't find them humourous, don't like hurt, maybe I did when I was younger)
Never relates humorous incidents that have happened unless being malicious - yes (me, sorta)
Sneers rather than laughs - YES!! (me, no, I laugh now, probably sneered when young)
Uses other people’s expressions and even other people’s questions - probably, I have only woken up and not seen her since (me, not now, don't know about when I was young)
Repeats what he has heard other people say as though they were his own thoughts/opinions - yes (me, yes but add my stuff, we all do that?)
Copies other people’s behaviour or way of doing things as though it is his own (me, I don't think so)
Reads only fantasy books never ones about people and relationships - does not read, does not relate to relationships (me, I wouldn't waste time, I like non-fiction, crime, etc, Psychopath!!)
Hypervigilant-needs to know everyone’s business even when they are out of sight - YES! (me, no, don't care)
Wants to know what everyone has done throughout the day when he has been at school - wasn't interested in me, just, did I behave (me, just if my daughter is upset and needs help to deal with it, I just give advice)
Never has dreams or nightmares - screams in sleep, occassionally (me, sometimes, dream a bit)
Never gets up in the night (even for the toilet-still wets the bed) - No, she gets up ( have trained my bladder, but will get up)
Never discusses memories of anything from the past - yes but has been the victim of others (remember bad ones mostly, but that's a survive mechanism in the brain?)
Does facial contortions when being spoken to - yes
Never strokes the cat but will pick it up and drop it - she seems to like animals (me, don't like cats, they use you)
Terrified of dogs and other peoples’ cats - no (me, no)
Terrified of water even the shower - no, but can't swim (me, no)
Refuses to wash, clean teeth or change clothes but gets annoyed if told he smells - no, must have good grooming to appear attractive to others (me, no)
Never comments on beautiful scenery, sunsets, rainbows, pictures etc doesn’t seem to notice anything of beauty - probably (me, definately no)
Never praises anybody or anything - YES, YES, or praises others kids/family, as if saying we are crap (I will if they are exceptional, otherwise if it's their job..... If I feel someone is being mistreated, I will over-praise to help with esteem and give the abuser the finger)
Constantly asks the time even when wearing a watch - never noticed (me, won't wear a watch)
Asks ridiculous questions he obviously knows the answers to and repeatedly when the same situation arises again - Yes
Never expresses any feelings for anybody even his grandmother who dotes on him - loves and supposedly cries for her abusive mother. Was that saying, she loved me, you don't, me victim? (me if I didn't want to do something, but I know mostly everything, INTJ personality)
Never thinks of doing something nice for anybody even to repay their generosity - may do, just to appear nice
Never helps around the house and gets aggressive when asked - not noticed (I do, but not enough)
Bodges chores so he won’t be asked to help with anything - yes, you never showed me, I don't know, I forget, your fault (no, I would not have anyone think badly of me being slack)
Looks, acts and sounds a lot younger than 13 years old, very babyish manner including speech - no (me, no)
Closes the blinds and takes all his clothes off to go to the toilet - closes every blind in the house, prison (me, not really)
Stands so close to his father when we are out that it is difficult to move - not noticed (me, dead now)
Steals things however trivial - has done (me, have done)
Never cries - no, cries for affect, seems staged (I have Psychopath traits and even when beaten/hurt would not cry. I would never give them what they want, would not show emotions, would not lower myself. I cry now)
Never shows any sadness even when others are very upset or in pain - if does feins it and sounds ingenuine (I used to think crying was indulgent, they aren't crying for the lost one, they've gone, it's about them and what they are missing out on)
Has an addiction to chocolate and will spend all his money on it and hides to eat it - likes chocolate (so do I)
Never shared his chocolate or anything else with anyone - does, but she is an adult