Right now my son has been in the dependency court system for a year and they are trying to find a permanent plan for him and of course their goal is reunification. There is a Federal law that says after a year in the dependency system a permanency plan must be made. In most cases their plan is reunification. I do not know what the next hearing will bring. They may terminate my parental rights, have us continue doing what we are doing and hope that he will someday get better, or maybe some compromise in between. Iím not worried right now because I have the recent hospitalization and his foster mother requesting he be moved out as evidence that he is not any better. I also have a recent social worker staffing report that recommends another higher level of group home placement. In addition, I have my Doctors recommendation and a lawyer who will stand with us. But yes, DCF only has one agenda it seems and that is reunification. If they confront me with that again, I am going to plainly tell them that my agenda is to keep my whole family safe and protected. They canít really blame us when I am trying to protect my family and I have reports that say my concerns are valid. However, ever temporary improvement, new placement, new therapist, or discharge from a facility that reports he is better is unnerving and I actually pray he will act up to keep my evidence current. So far he hasn't let me down.
I was reflecting on why I write here. I just wanted to get some type of digital record out there so that other parents who are going down this route will know what to do and what to ask for. Of course every country is different and every State even has different laws. Someone told me that in Nebraska you can leave your older child at a hospital or fire department and abandon them if you feel you cannot care for them, and no one will prosecute you. I do not know if that is true. In general, I would assume, most states have similar programs and similar laws.
The problems is the APA won't recognize this condition, and containment and group home care is too expensive to be covered by normal insurance means. However, I know if he had autism, there would be a lot more programs available, and even group homes for that. However, autism is recognized as a chronic child condition, ASPD/Psychopath is not. So people continue not getting help, parents live in denial or isolated helplessness, and psychos grow up without even getting diagnosed, let alone treated or restricted from hurting others. And in my case, good parents become dependency cases. Most parents only get to this point after the child has committed a crime and is forced into the court system. Even then, I know parents in that situation who still don't understand what a psychopath is and still love their child, so they bail him out, take him back, and continue living in great peril, hoping and believing that somehow their love will pay off in the end. I had to have several doctors and professionals tell me that I need to cut my losses and realize he won't get better, and he will just tear your family apart. Deep down, I knew they were right, but hope sometimes keeps you going down a hopeless path because the truth is too unthinkable and tragic to accept.
Edited by DadofRad (07/29/17 07:44 PM)