I had repied to another of your posts, but did not read this one. Trying to put your story together. I take it you are married to a man who you believe is a pychopath. I take it he shows little remorse for imoral acts, and does not care about others feelings. Those are characteristics of a psycho, but also common traits in our relativistic amoral culture. If you don't mind, tell us more about his actions and attitude. Also, please review Hare's checklists on paychopaths. There are different functioning levels of psychopaths, and not all are violent or agressive. All do tend to be manupulative, calous, and uncaring, but they can learn to mimic these characteristics, making them hard to spot, without years of observation. For my son, I could not figure out for years why he did not respond to consequences, how he could continue to do behaviors that caused him to lose things we thought he valued. Then, how it could be that he really did not value anything or anyone. The only answer that made sense was he is a psychopath.