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I too, work with a P., he use to be my business partner and my best friend. I finally woke up one day and saw the light. This P. is so evil, so cruel, uses and abuses others for his own satisfaction. Greed and status is so important to him. He admits to me he charms people to get what he wants. I fell into his trap, now it hurts me so much to see how I was used and abused. He gets joy out of others pain. When I stood up to him I became his target to eliminate. He has bullied me and found a group of coworkers to help him. I also go to the bully website, but find this website also very informative because my bully is is a P. He meets almost everyone of the criterias mentioned here, and he even admits some of them, openly. He likes who he is, takes no responsibility for how his behavior effects others, doesn't want to change and doesn't think he needs to. I would never want to hurt another human being the way a P. does. I am working from home now, to STAY AWAY FROM HIM, as you say. I have been diagnosed with PTSD, as a result of being around a P. bully for the past year and a half. I have been betrayed in the worst kind of way. I feel all the pain in some of the postings here. I am so glad to have found this sight. I am in the healing process. Still haven't decided what to do about my job. Right now Im just taking a big long break away from a very toxic environment. Eventually I will be strong enough to do what is best for me.

Betterway. . .

>I too, work with a P., he use to be my business partner and my best friend.<

Same here.

First he was my friend.

He wanted me to go into business with him and at first I wouldn't. Then a few years later I did. . . He was always promising me this position or that and lied to me so many times. So many things that were supposed to work out never did. Then I opened a store for him and it was supposed to be 50-50. I could never get him to talk to me about it. Finally, I had to quit because it cost me more than I was making with my car expenses and all. I told him I was going to try to make it on my own. He said go for it. I did. And then he told me that the company we represent had found out what I was doing. (I was going with a competitor). I called the company (unbeknown to him) and talked to them. I told them what I was doing and it was the first they had heard about it. My deal never worked out and I know now he sabatoged it.

For me, once I was traumatized, I seemed unable to find my way out. It seemed like I knew what was going on but my mind just couldn't grasp it. It was almost like I HAD to stick around for the grand finale to find out what I was dealing with.

Today he drove by me. When I saw his vehicle. . .my mind quit working. I had only seen him two times in person since Oct 1. I was talking to my daughter and my mind froze. I don't even remember what we talked about from then on.

He called. I saw his number on the caller id. My mind started whirling. He left a message in my voice mail. It was about business, it always is, never anything personal. But my mind was not my own for about two hours. . .I started obsessing. . .but at least it is not for as long and I know I'm doing it.

>I am working from home now, to STAY AWAY FROM HIM, as you say.<

That's what I'm doing also. I would never be able to think much less get away from him if I were anywhere in close proximity on a daily basis. I feel retraumatized even seeing his vehicle.

I just keep reading the posts here on the forum. The validation and support helps me stay focused on getting away and staying away.

I'm so glad you are here!

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I think the guy's got bipolar.

People with that disorder in the manic state tend to exhibit behavior resemblant of narcississm.

My dad for example, almost certainly had bipolar, but was suspected of being a narcissist.

I have bipolar too, although because I'm taking enough medicine to kill a mule, I'm a bit more mellow, although I still seem to have a sense of humor left.

-Delta2477

Hi Delta2477, welcome to the forum.

I have never read any indicators of bipolar and narcisstic exhibibiting similar symptoms. We try to keep the focus on discussion about Psychopaths and let people come to their own conclusions and not directly offer any diagnosis. We do have a very interesting thread on difference between NPD and psychopathy

Best regards,

Di