I never could place it until he left and I had the peace and time to actually think and by then I was working on a secured psych unit and learned so much there. I just thought he was an unhappy, abusive substance abuser, drunk, cheat, thief, ex con and a compulsive liar = psychotic - I finally just had time to add it up- now and again go to an article about psychopathic behavior and today joined this forum.
There is a young woman in this building married to a psycho - I listen and watch and even said something once so she unfriended me which told me i hit close to home "truth is like poetry and most people hate poetry". No one wants to think they made a wrong choice even if warned before hand this situation is gonna bring nothing, but grief in your life. I did the exact thing. Oddly enough she is working residential psych now- won't be long until her compassion wears thin, as you are working with crazy and going home to crazy.