Hi again Sylvie,


One of the ways to ensure that the person you are dealing with is not a P is to ask questions. If the answers to your questions are not up to par or confuse you or make you feel wrong in some way, then you are right to pursue your line of inquiry.

However, I am not a P. I am happy to answer questions on the nature of P’s and to help you as much as I am capable of doing.

Towards that end, I have taken the time to write you a reply to a very long personal letter. I believe that my reply was as caring and as personal as one can expect from a comparative stranger.

Instead of a personal reply, you have chosen to publicly ask me some rather leading questions that I am clearly not comfortable answering because:

1. A proper answer would take a great deal of time and thought.
2. They enter into my personal sphere.
3. A possible answer may enter into YOUR personal sphere.

What I am willing to discuss on a personal level, differs greatly from what I am willing to discuss in a public forum.

I am very sorry that you have not understood my answers, and I apologise for my unwillingness to further elaborate on, what to me, constitutes personal questions.

Regards,

Nan

Hi Nan,

I've noted your post but I do not have the energy or time to respond to it now (beyond acknowledging it). I will say that your seeming assumption about my questions are completely misguided and surprising. I did already tell you that the email provider is in transition to a new site and platform which is why I provided Diane with a new email address and I did appreciate your email response.

Regards,
Sylvie

Hi Sylvie,

You write:

"...your seeming assumption about my questions are completely misguided and surprising."

I am sorry!

However much I lean towards the teachings of the Dalai Lama, I am not enlightned. Not by a long shot. I am a person with the same faults and foibles as anyone else. I can be hurt, I can be impatient and I make mistakes. Just like many of the former P victims here, I too have an ongoing battle with the issue of trusting other people.

Peace,

Nan

Hi Nan,

No problem, we all have misunderstandings. Just threw me off that's all, because I was coming at it from a totally different place. I'll catch up with you later in the week. Long day. Feel a little like flippin' Sisyphus when in the midst of dealing with these P situations - well at least the analogy makes me smile.

Take care,
Sylvie

Hi Diane,

I was wondering if you received my new email address that I sent to you last weekend. I'm asking because you normally acknowledge emails really quickly but this time around I haven't heard back.

Thanks
Sylvie

Hi sylvie,

I didn't receive your email, could you please resend? You can also go to "My Home" to change to your new email address so that your file is updated.

Thanks,

Di

Hi Diane,

Thanks - I updated my email contact on my profile. The email address I used for you was dianne@psychopath-research.com because I couldn't access my email at that time and couldn't remember your other email address. Since it didn't bounce back to me I assumed it's active.

Regards
Sylvie

Hi Nan,

Just to elaborate on my previous response, there are times when I read postings here when I come across a statement that raises questions for me. However I don't always get to ask them right away. I had tripped over the statement you made a while back and had intended to ask where you were coming from in saying that. Also it was always my intent to continue posting here since as has been mentioned before the back and forth discussion is helpful to both posters and viewers.

To the extent that you felt your personal space was encroached on (and I still don't understand how that is) - I regret that - it was never my intent.

Also, while I intend to try and be careful to avoid Ps in my business and personal dealings going forward, I don't see Ps everywhere and perhaps I'm fortunate for that. I think that's a really serious and profound conclusion to reach about someone and I don't treat it lightly.

Like others here dealing with P situations, it's barely all I can do to conserve my energy and direct it towards resolving those and moving forward.

Regards,
Sylvie

Hi Sylvie,

I fully understand and appreciate how difficult it is to move forward while in a P situation. I also think it is clear by now that you have my sympathy - if not, I would surely never have agreed to communicate privately, something I have not before contemplated doing with a poster.

As well, I have done my utmost to answer your posts with care and concern and as quickly as possible. Your situation is indeed a difficult one because you have more than one P in your your immediate life.

"To the extent that you felt your personal space was encroached on (and I still don't understand how that is) - I regret that - it was never my intent."

I am aware that your intent was not to encroach on my personal space. Like you, I am an intensely private person and there are subjects both inside and outside of P-business and P-situations that I will not publicly go into except in the most cursory manner. I believe that on thinking it over you will likely agree that that holds true for you as well. I am fairly intuitive and because I am deaf, I have developed this intuition to a point where I am able to decode the written word (read between the lines) in ways that most people simply cannot. Sometimes I forget that other people cannot do this and an answer that, to me, is subtle but clear, will appear to others as nothing but evasive nonsense. That may possibly be how you have read my answers to you.

Since writing, technical, psychological and otherwise, is my bread and butter I can also be very clear if I so choose.

However, personal truth is relative! Long ago, a friend said something to me about telling the as-you-see-it-truth that has stayed with me.

"Is it necessary? Is it useful? Is it time?"

I try very hard to keep those three conditions in mind. Words have power!

While truth can be freeing, I think it is important to remember that it is as difficult to speak the truth as it is to hear it.

Warm regards,

Nan

Hi Nan,

Thanks for your post. I will write back on the weekend when I have more time in general for these kinds of things.

Bye for now,
Sylvie