Hi

Well we picked the kid up from school on Thursday and met with the Housemaster of the boarding school. As expected all the feedback was negative. He said he didn’t have much of a problem personally because he didn’t have much contact with him but when he did he was rude, belligerent, immature and lazy.

The worst thing was he said all the female members of boarding staff had complained about him that his rudeness and his unacceptable attitude. He is obviously not popular with either the teaching staff or the boarding staff. All commented on his immaturity and attention seeking behaviour. IF he goes back in September they are all going to pin him down and he won’t get away with it any more.

Some hope! He will do exactly what he has done over and over, he will crank up his bad behaviour until he gets thrown out. His mother got rid of him, so did we by sending him to boarding school and it will be them next. Even family, friends and neighbours have rejected him.

After we had the report from the Housemaster we got in the car and the kid starts smarming round his father as though nothing had happened. He obviously thought we would stop in a restaurant on the way home if he could engineer it. He has a thing about being taken out for meals.
As soon as his father is out of earshot he starts on me-answering back, being rude and doing the bad attitude body language. I need to find a punishment because I do not intend to put up with this. I have never smacked him (I wouldn’t dare because I’d never stop, I’ve got 3 years of anger to get out of my system.) Any suggestions???

I need some punishment I can inflict that has nothing to do with his father. Last time I punctured his football after he deliberately destroyed all my plants and clay pots in the garden after being told more than once not to kick the ball there. We have a playing field opposite the house so it’s not as though he is being restricted.

Keep everything crossed for me that he will phone his gran today and she will offer to take him.

Jan

Hi Jan,

I have been thinking about you and wondering how things are going?

It is good news the school doesn't plan on tossing him out, not yet at least and will accept him back. Scary thought when they finally get their fill of his behaviour.

Does his mom plan on visiting with him while he is on break or have you heard from her? I bet you are waiting for his mom or grandma to offer for him to visit.

I really hope you are doing okay.

Di