Thank you for the welcome. A forum like this is a great idea.

It's hard on my husband and, indirectly, on me because I worry what will happen to my husband if anything happens to Stepson.

Eithne

Thank you for sharing your story. How very tragic for your family, especially your husband and his son. Welcome to the forum, I am so glad you are here. . .

finished

Thank you for your welcome!

I'm hoping that I can contribute some of the things I learned from the experience--otherwise it will feel like even more of a waste than it is.

I have a son who is 36 and recently out of prison. I helped him get into an apt. and secure insurance for his car. I helped with minimal furniture. Once he got everything he needed he now does not talk to me. He has done this several other times in the past. It still hurts very much. Today he stood up his almost 4 yr. old daughter. I just am sick inside.

SJS,

Welcome to the forum. I am sorry that your son is such a source of disappointment. If you feel comfortable doing
so, please tell us more about his personality, his habits,
etc....

Rick

My son is 36 yr. old and has been using, dealing, and making drugs for many years. In between times he is incarcerated and has been since age 18. He has done atleast 10 + years all together if you add them all up. He has two small children from different women. He does not see his children or seem to care about them. He is always thinking about himself and his needs. He writes to me when he is locked up and always sounds so good in his letters. He talks about how things will be different. Then he gets out and just goes right back to the same old way of life. He just got finished getting me to co-sign for an apartment. I really believed he was trying. It was all an act that I fell for. My question to you parents do you just have to cut off all relationships with these type of people? He is my only child. He has been uncaring all his life. He did not attend his Grandmother's funeral. I believe he loves me but he only says it never shows it.The other pattern is the constant lying. It is so difficult to know if he ever tells the truth. I am really in a place I don't know what to do. Please give me any suggestions you might have.

sjs

Hi sjs, welcome to the forum. Your situation sounds very sad. Have you had a chance to read Dr. Hare's book?

From what I understand 30% of the prison population are Psychopaths.

Does you son appear to have a concience. What about his eyes, do they look normal or without emotion. You must be thinking he is a Psychopath since you ended up here.

We can help and support you as needed.

Di

sjs,
Welcome to the forum. I found so much support here. You have truly found a place to come where people understand what your going through.
betterway

I received this by error via emal. sjs is looking for feedback and comments

To: dianne@psychopath-research.com
Sent: Tuesday, September 09, 2003 12:49 AM
Subject: Re: Reply to your post

Hi Diane,
I am in the process of reading Dr. Hare's book. I find it difficult because the more I read the more I see of my son. The only thing that confuses me is my son is not violent. He does not do physical harm to people. All his criminal history is drug related.

I have not really ever noticed his eyes. I do notice he has difficulty making eye contact or hearing what anyone else is saying. He is so self centered. He has been this way since he was a toddler.

What do parent do? Can I have any relationship at all or do I have to refrain from any contact? I am in a very difficult time trying to absorb this information. I want to talk to my own psychiatrist about it as well. I suffer from depression and anxiety.

Thanks for your note,
sjs

Hi,
I have been reading Dr. Hare's book "Without Conscience." It is a great book filled with information but two things are bothering me. I can not see in my P any form of physical harm to people or animals. I know he has caused tremendous emotional pain to his children and friends and family but never violence. All of his crimes are drug related and never violent. Does this rule him out as a P or am I in denial? I really would like to hear if anyone out there has a P that falls into this situation or has heard of one. Please share your thoughts.
sjs