Hello all I am new here but not all that new to the Psychopath's of the world.

Here is my story and I will take any advice you can give me:

I have been married to my DH for almost 5 years. He has 3 kids from previous the youngest of which is now 15 and a Psychopath. He has always had issues that no one could put thier finger on - he has been dxed as everything from ADHD to bi-polar. Then it came to a head in August of 2005. During a bday party for my son, he took my two nieces (7 adn 4 at the time) into our basement and molested both of them. He then left with his mother for visitation like nothing happened. Later that evening the girls told thier mother and all H%%L broke loose - he was charged with two counts of CSC 1 and two of CSC 3. We immediatly placed him in a psychiatric facility with a transfer to a sex offender treatment center. Since then we have found out that he has molested about 8 to 10 kids - and it has been going on for years. the only explanation he can give is that "I wanted sex so I took it". Recently, he attacked the staff on two occassions and is looking at a felony for assault with intent to rape. We met with his doctor yesterday and he said that my SS has "psychopathic traits" but that we could change them if we work hard in the next 6 months. I am scared - if my DH fights to keep him in the juvi system he could be free and walking around in 3 years!!! I have three children at home and I am not sure what he is capable of. I don;t want him anywhere near me but I can not prevent it if he is free walking around.

My questions are #1 - can 15 yearold Psychopath's be changed? #2 Since he has shown that he can be violent - am I at risk? #3 How do I help my DH (who is still hopeing that he can have a "normal" life) see that the SS is potentially dangerous and help him accept that it is not my DH's fault?

Any wisdom would be appreciated.

Avoid, avoid, avoid.

Everything I have read says there is no hope for them to even learn to care about how they hurt people. Faking it won't last long enough to work for your kids.

If he is able to go so far at such a young age- then that wisdom would seem to indicate if he changes at all as he grows, it would be for the worst.

It is hard when people steal, and cheat, and lie. He crossed a line where there is no return when he molested children.

Just my thoughts. Easy to say, hard to do I'm sure.

Best to you.

3rdJeneration

Thanks. That was my thought but I was not sure since I have never delt with someone that is as scary to me as he is. When we met with the therapist for "family therapy" he had several more minorish incidents. But the scary part it that he did not seem to have any idea how his actions effect others. He wasn;t going to go through with things - for example he put pepper in a staff's drink but it was ok since he was going to go and get another one. Scary scary scary!

Hi

I can tell you from experience with my younger brother that they get much worse as they grow older. They learn how to put on a social facade and their manipulations mature.

None of my siblings associate with me because of him. My older brother simply told me that if I refuse to have a relationship with my younger brother, I cannot have a relationship with him. My younger sister didn't say anything she's just pulled away and blames me for the situation.

I'm pretty much caught between a rock and a hard place because if I associate with my younger brother he has the opportunity to pick up information which he will distort and use against me to upset my siblings and turn them against me, and if I don't associate with him, no-one will associate with me because of that!

And he's actually the least of my problems!

What he's done is ensure that I don't have the backing and support of my family when I need it the most in my dealings with another even more dangerous psychopath.

I'll post the whole story later and hopefully the information I give can provide you with some insight into how these people work as children.

I wish I could be more positive for you, but I've obviously never learned how to deal with these people or I wouldn't be in the situation I'm in.

However, information about how they work is always useful and at least you can be prepared for what might be coming.

If he has the additional problem of being a pedophile, to my knowledge there is no successful treatment for that either and you really must protect your other children. If he molested these other girls he likely molested your other children as well.

I'm so sorry to hear about your situation! It's exceptionally tough.