Hi Chris, it's kind of a relief when all the pieces fall into place and you realise you're not imagining things or being hypersensitive about things. I made the break from my psycho-mum about 5 years ago now and I can honestly tell you it was the best decision I have ever made. Unfortunately she still has a lot to do with a good part of the family, which does make things awkward at times (especially when they are still swallowing all her lies), but not having to deal with all the drama and BS has made life just SOOOO much easier.
I truly hope for your sake that you don't feel guilty for making the choice to save your sanity. People who haven't dealth with these sort of people - or those who are still beguiled by them - often don't understand why we have to make such a clean break. I know my partner really struggled to understand until an unexpected counter with my mother - after which his eyes were opened. Prior to that he would tell me I was being unreasonable and cutting off my nose to spite my face, and that I should make more of an effort... what he didn't understand was I wasn't dealing with a "normal" person. Anyway, what I'm trying to say is stick to your guns. You know the truth and that is the most important thing. The people who truly know you and care for you might not understand what you are doing, but will know you well enough to respect your decision.
Meanwhile I so understand that level of numbness. I think there's only so many tears you can cry, only so much pain you can absorb until there's just nothing left inside. In a way it's kind of scary how easy it can be to move on once you've made that decision... but maybe that's because you've already done so much grieving.
Wishing you (and your sister) all the best.
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