Hello!

Has anyone ever felt that a psychopath persecutes them by using symbolic things, stereotypes, etc.?
I try to explain me case...

My father turnes me and my mother inside-out and hates so many people around. But he maintains good relationships with those people.
He build a house (where he meets his friends) and lives a separate life, but he's not divorced from my mom. Only comes home for new year and eats, consumes, makes scandals, curses, doesn't contribute.
Then he blames us in public for not going to his house. A few times when we went there, he attacked us. Once he literally kicked me out after an irrational scandal...
THE SYMBOLS IN THIS: He's the "good father who built a house for himself", I have the role of the "bad guilty unthankful unfaithful son", I'm also the one who "doesn't want to go there and doesn't appreciate his fathers effort in building the house"...
REALITY: He doesn't want us to go there, even keeps us away! Maintains a horrible conflictual long-distance relationship with me and my mom, and periodically attacks us with strangers, with whom he throws parties at the house.
CONCLUSION: We're excluded, he covers us with lies. Everybody thinks he's the "good family loving father" only because he has that big house (very big). Overall, we never had any real family life. Before the house wasn't built, he blamed us with many other things...
So he's the "Psychopath with the house", but people only understand the symbolic value of the house, they say "it's nice, why don't you thank your father", others are more radical, even vulgar: "you idiot, if I were you, I'd visit the house", my father says "my son cannot understand how much I worked to build the house"...

But what he does to us and tells people is contradictory...

He always lived separately. Even before he built the house.
The house is empty, has many guest rooms, few furniture, he has employees to cook for him and wash, while at home I live a modest life with my mom.
He keep large meetings there, ... food, drinks, etc. I am like the "persona non grata" when I go there like once every 2 years... then he blames me for "not appreciating" until I leave.
Then I come back in 2 years...
Same story, he hurts me and I leave...

I'm sick that he's been doing this for 12 years now and I feel seasick.

He hates my mom and he's afraid that my mother steals from him. He has a large fortune and rarely even buys a bread.

When he keeps large parties, people ask him things like where am I, where's my mom...
He tells people that I don't want to go there. (Not true, he doesn't even invite me there). If I go, he humiliates me and kicks me out.

He spends enormous amounts (about 2.000-3.000 $) sometimes on parties that he keeps for 1-2 weeks, sometimes. He travels around with people.
When I was a teenager, he never even gave me pocket money.
But he always gave so much to people.

Understand now?

The symbolical conflict...

He lives separately, uses us, then we have to "appreciate him"...
He's so evil, yet if I criticize him, he tells me "how dare you?" <-???!!
He hates my mother, then at his house in front of foreigners he asks me "isn't your mother coming?" (while at home my mom is treated like an animal by him)

The stereotype of the "bad son" works perfectly. Everyone around him is trying to teach me things like how to make the fire, how to talk in foreign languages, etc. But I know already or I have re-learned like 7845513 times
But he never tells people that I am well educated, I do business with prestigeous large companies, I am studying at my master course...

People are trying to "explain" me, to "understand" "how much he worked" and "how guilty I am" and "not to believe my mother, bacause my father wants my own good".

The stereotypes work for him. Everyone believes him.
I keep denying all the accusations, but he seems so angelical, that one can't do anything...

He's kind to people, so they think he's a "great guy".
He can lvie a perfect double life, he's a wildman at home, in public he's like the innocent Dalai Lama.

He terrifies me and I find he lives so many parallel lives, all false. All built on symbols, myths, anything that he learned in that "works". People believe the stories, the script is played in front of them and I always loose.

I don't know what to do.
He isolated me from my childhood. He always says "don't be isolated son, learn to be friendly to people" - says this in front of his enemies whom he curses behind and is friends with when they're around...

It's such a mix of things that I still wonder how I managed to untie myself from his tentacles...

He's been using symbolic conflicts, stereotypes that are easily believed by people. They don't think and analyze, just take my father's stories.

It's horrible that people try to expalin me things and talk me down. Look me down and I always have to struggle to reach higher, wash myself from the lies, but they are always above me and I'm always below in shame.

Bottom line is: I never had a real relationship with my father.
He was the Lucifer in my life, like a guardian devil, who always used me symbolically in his persecutions and it worked for him.
I guess the fact that I exist is also a symbol to him, because he learned that people need to have children, so he has me to prove that he's normal.

I was always the scapegoat in his "beautifully presented, twisted stories" about issues that we don't actually have...

Another stereotype that I suffer of: "A father is always right, the son should follow his father" <-- what if the father is a nut?

My mom also suffers of a stereotype-like thing: most people think that men obtain large sums of money and their family is first and that men bring more money to the house, while women often don't work... In our case, my father doesn't work and takes all the credit. He takes my mom's money, east my food, doesn't pay taxes and people always think it's the other way around....

Hmm...
He does bad and says "I only want to help you son" and "There will come a time when you will understand and you will regret what you did to me" (I didn't do anyhing, strange twist...)
People also tell me "a son should respect his father"...
Strange, but I hardly even contradict him, I am afraid of him...

the worst thing that ever happened to me is that my Psychopath is my own father.

Symbolically...

father = good, intelligent, smart, teaches his son good things, is always right, "wants what's best for his son"
son = naive, must listen to his father, has low intelligence, "has to understand"

But In my case, he's so complex and evil, uses "THE FATHER" symbol. I don't really feel he's my father, he cannot even pretend to behave like one in front of me, at least.

CONCLUSIONS:

I guess that psychopaths detect the symbols in people's life. The understand how things have to look like (not BE, just LOOK LIKE!).
So, they build their schemes on the appearances and actually behave compeltely differently.

QUESTION:

Has any of you suffered by persecutions build on sterotypes, general beliefs, symbolic things...?

I't a horrible thing to be in. It's a trap, because there is a general diea of how things have to be and they refuse to think it could be different! And the Psychopath uses the symbolic story in his advantage...