Hi Finished. You must have missed my previous post to you in this thread.
>>>Taking responsibilty for ALL the addict, abusers, alcholics etc in my life. You know I was actually thinking "if I would have done it ALL different" THEY would be okay. Now how crazy is that! >>>>
I think part of that is exactly how the P's want us to think.It becomes ingrained that we are responsible for things not working. Years ago I took so much responsibility for things not working and blaming myself, that I had put up wallpaper, then could not understand why it would not stay up. I worked hours and hours trying to figure what I was doing wrong. In total frustration I went to the place I bought it, to ask them what I was doing wrong. With much relief, they told me nothing, the wallpaper had defective glue. Guess what that next batch they replaced it with worked fine. I learned a valuable lesson that day. I call it the wallpaper lesson. LOL.