This information applies to anyone being abused so don't be put off by the title.

Jan

http://www.498a.org/contents/dv/MenAbusedByWomen.pdf

Here is an interesting article about women who abuse men. So little is known, hopefully society will begin to research and provide input on this subject. Personally and this only my non scientific take on things there are a higher amount of identified women Psychopath than the statistics show.

Women who abuse men

I agree with you Diane and I run a blog that has information regarding female offenders, including research articles, transcripts from shows, video, etc. The URL for the site is http://whataboutwhenmomistheabuser.blogspot.com/ Hopefully there may be something there that is of help.

Hi BloggerT, I just had a chance to read your excellent site. I have always thought that women who abuse is not spoken about enough, I would even go so far as to say the % of women Psychopaths is no where near what the stats say.

Di

Actually my wife a little bit of psychopath, sometimes she throw everything at my own face.
I think I need to bring her to psychiatrist to examine her.
I have a little problem no once will take care of my two babies if she will be examine at any rate

Hello Ashgray

I presume you have come to the forum for information and advice so could you tell us a bit about the problems you have with your wife and we may be able to help you find the information you are looking for.

Why do you think she may be psychopathic? She may be suffering from many things including post natal depression, has she been to see a doctor since she had your last child?

Hopefully your wife is not psychopathic and I would like to ask you why you think she is. None of us at the forum can make a diagnosis but we can show you where to look for resources so you can decide whether you need to look more closely at the symptoms of that and other possibilities.

Please feel free to ask any questions you have.

Regards
Jan

Hi there

An interesting song that touches on a relationship with a woman that sounds a bit like a Psychopath.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yur15Brfvhs

The "something perfect" sounds like the mask she created to woo him initially.

Cheers
Dude

Hi Dude, my personal theory is if the Psychopath's don't play nice while they are worming information out of their new victim they wouldn't get many to go for their agenda. They need to show the "good" side in order to lure a victim. It is like if someone is mean/rude or otherwise unseemly a victim would never get in their trap.

Di

Hi Dude

It’s so difficult to interpret the reactions you mention. I do agree with Di that there is a performance laid on to attract a victim. I suppose the timescale and context of the things you mention will be relevant.
When did she cry at films, who was observing and did she think it was the expected response or a natural reaction? My partner’s kid used to watch us watching films or TV and copy our responses. If we laughed-he laughed but he got ahead of himself and tried to pre-empt us and failed miserably. He laughed at the wrong times and would look at us to see what we were doing. If we watched sad, emotional programmes he would show no response whatsoever and get very bored.

Being friendly to people is difficult to quantify, it could be to show observers that she is capable of making contact but it could have been a genuine flash of bonding…..tricky one. Same for the mobile phone being placed where it’s needed….unless she was the person who would phone you first.

Buying nice things …yet again it could be for two reasons. Because she wanted to give you nice things OR to let other people see what she had given you.

As for anyone who teases or mistreats animals scores minus 1000 with me.

Psychopaths don’t think in the conventional way…they plot.
When your ex said ‘out of sight out of mind’ reminded me of ‘Damien’. Every day when he came home he said “what have you both done all day?” Out of sight, out of mind? We were advised to respond with “waiting for you” and it worked. He never asked again.

I asked Damien during one of those moments when it’s right, who he loved, He was totally thrown. He did the sideways glance, screwed up face but no response. He couldn’t answer as he was perplexed, he didn’t know what he was supposed to say.
When he did respond he chose his grandmother!!! Not his father (who had custody) giving him all he could and more.

There is so much more but I do think when these observations are made is important.

I'm just going to check out the link you posted.

Regards
Jan

Hi Jan

Your description of your partner's kid is truly chilling. It reminds me of hearing a few years back about a couple who adopted a Psychopath child. It caused huge damage and they sued the council successfully on the basis that it should have warned them. Thinking back she was never interested in watching anything emotional, prefering instead to watch documentaries. She would often fall asleep watching telly.

Did the kid say “what have you both done all day?” in a derogatory way as if you'd been doing nothing of any value/importance?

The blank stare is interesting. On one occasion we went to a night club. Despite my protests she stripped to her bra in full view of a group of incredulous lads. I told her to leave and I stayed to finish my drink, absolutely furious. I came out and found her sitting on the pavement with her back against a wall, staring into space. There was no expression on her face at all. Just a void - utter emptiness.

Dude