16 Faces of a Psychopath

Posted by: Anonymous

16 Faces of a Psychopath - 10/29/02 10:33 PM

Sixteen Faces of the Psychopath:

Described below are 16 different expressions of psychopathy, each focusing largely on the psychopath's lifestyle and habitual ways of interacting with other people. Behind each of these descriptions it is assumed that a universal psychopathic structure (characterized by narcissism, primitive impulsivity, along with deficits in emotion, empathy, guilt, and morality) belongs to each type. These type descriptions have been gathered from a variety of sources and amalgamated to form the collection


This P is a pathological liar who will often lie for no reason at all. He/she is usually skilful at this, but sometimes fails to remember. This P will agree to anything then turn around and do just the opposite. Legal/custody agreements and normal social protocol mean nothing to him/her. Technically, these psychopaths never lie because lying is not a relevant issue for them. The idea or image of truth doesn't exist with the psychopath, so he cannot lieÖ. there is for him no difference. He says what's convenient, what comes to his mind, but never figures out 'Is that now really true, or not'? There is something in normal people which wants to see the truth and wants to be truthful, but if that internal sense is missing then the word 'lie' is senseless.

A psychopath, for instance, may have gone to the bank and 'conned' the bank manager in order to get money, and what he or she said to the banker in regard to that is not necessarily concealment or lying, it's just 'part of the story' that goes with getting the money, and he does that very well and that's the adapted or successful psychopath. He says what the banker wants to hear and for the psychopath who says it, that's it -there is no truth or lying. The psychopath sometimes has an understanding that other people distingish between lies and truth and will often adjust himself and behave in accordance with these facts. But the 'liar/contract breaker' psychopath completely refuses to recognise the social sense of lies/truth, and lives only by saying and believing "what is convenient" in any given moment.


Frequently occupationally-successful, this P will rise to the top in work and social circles. No one knows the hell that his/her family lives through. They are often gifted and intelligent in their chosen field, but must be in absolute control. They will manipulate others to further their ideas. They can be a vindictive bullies in the office. They have no genuine social conscience. Can be suspicious and paranoid. This disingenuous psychopath's behaviour is typified by a veneer of friendliness and sociability. Although making a superficially good impression upon aquaintances, this P frequently shows a more characteristic unreliability, impulsive tendencies, and deep resentments and moodiness among family members and other close associates They are often extremely verbally gifted and charismatic, and everyone may love him/her -- except those who truly know the demon he/she is. This wheeler-dealer will leave others holding the bag.


This P will display an impulsive hypersexuality (male or female), and frequently expresses a polymorphic sexual range - eg., pornography and masturbation, promiscuity, homosexuality, and various paraphilias - including possible incestual tendencies and perversions.

The sexual psychopath takes a predatory approach towards his targets, including stalking behaviors. This type may derive his sexual pleasure from a single theme such as serial rape or pedophilia, in which his primary sexual aim will be to dominate, to use, to control, and to subjugate another person (often someone weaker and less able to manage the situation) in the service of a gradiose self. According to researcher Darwin Dorr, "the majority of pedophiles are psychopathic, or manifest a significant degree of psychological characteristics of psychopathy." Of the psychopathic pedophile, Robert Hare writes, 'The number of children who are sexually abosed by parents, other relatives, child-care workers, clergymen, and teachers is truly staggering. Unlike other abusers, many of whom were themselves abused as children, are psychologically disturbed, and often experience anguish about what they are doing, psychopathic abusers are unmoved - "I just take what's available," said one of our subjects, convicted of sexually assaulting his girlfreind's eight-year-old daughter.' For the sexual psychopath, then, all people may be targets, including both the very young and the very elderly, and both genders, who are often targeted for sex without consent.


The explosive psychopath is differentiated from other psychopathic variants by the unpredictable and sudden emergence of hostility. These "adult tantrums," characterized by uncontrollable rage and fearsome attacks upon others, occur frequently against members of the psychopath's own family.

Such explosive behavior erupts precipitously, before its intensive nature can be identified and constrained. Feeling thwarted and threatened, these psychopaths respond in a volatile and hurtful way, bewildering others by the abrupt change that has overtaken them, saying unforgivable things, striking unforgettable blows. As with children, tantrums are instantaneous reactions to cope with frustration or fear. Although the explosive behavior is often effective in intimidating others into silence or passivity, it is not primarily an instrumental act, but rather an outburst that serves to discharge pent-up feelings of humiliation and degredation.


Especially distinctive is this type of psychopath's tyrannical desires is their willingness to go out of the way to be unmerciful and inhumane. Often calculating and cool, these psychopaths are selective in their choice of victims, identifying individuals who are likely to submit rather than to react with counterviolence. Quite frequently, they display a disproportionate level of abusiveness and intimidation, in order to impress not only their victims but those who observe the psychopaths' unconstrained power. More than any other type, these individuals derive deep satisfaction in creating suffering and in seeing its effect on others. In contrast to the explosive psychopaths, for whom hostility serves primarily as a discharge of pent-up feelings, the tyrannical psychopaths employ violence instrumentally as a means to inspire terror and intimidation. These experiences then become the object of self-conscious reflection, providing the psychopaths with a sense of deep satisfaction. This P has often turns into a demon. Their objective is often watching us dangle while they inflicts emotional, verbal and occasionally physical cruelty. Their enjoyment is all too obvious. He/she may be a sexual sado-maso. Women, children, men, the elderly, (and even animals) - anyone with any vulnerabiliies are his target


This P will come on strong, sweep us off our feet, says he/she has the same interests, wants to marry us quickly. This P may appear helpful, comforting by their feigned 'idealization' of us phase, but it never lasts. Jekyll always turns into Hyde eventually. This P is aware that you will be drawn closer by his/her relaxing aura and lack of inhibitions. This kind of P is aware that non-psychopaths are tortured by their usual neurotic compulsions, and doubt's, and guilts, and inhibitions, and that he/she can us offer an atmosphere where we are temporarily free of such tiring emotions (free like the P). When you have this kind of psychopath in front of you it's lovely, it's great, it's relaxing. Nothing feels quite as relaxing as having dinner with this psychopath because then you feel absolutely great and those darned horrible emotional states fall away, especially when having a few drinks with them, it's the greatest thing you can do, and they make you feel absolutely at peace. That's part of their charm, and it's almost as if they are graced with a kind of charisma, which is why so many women and men fall for psychopaths. The psychopath has no inhibitions, and this type can play up to achieve his sexual aims by ascertaining and telling you everything you want to hear. He will talk to a woman who is interested in poetry about poetry. He doesn't care about poetry but he will quote poets. The female psychopath will take a great interest in a man's work and talk to him for hours. She doesn't really care about his work, but will charm him with her interest. They will be romantic, invite you to candle-lit dinners, compliment you, and when they have you hooked they will drop the charm-game for the more selfish lifestyle for which they are well known.

Posted by: Anonymous

Re: 16 Faces of a Psychopath - 10/29/02 10:44 PM


In the covetous psychopath, we see a distilled form an essential feature of the DSM's antisocial personality disorder, and the ICD's syssocial personality disorder: aggrandizement. These individuals feel that life has not "given them their due"; that they have been deprived of their rightful level of love, support, or material rewards; that others have received more than their share; and that they personally were never given the bounties of the good life. Thus, they are driven by envy and a desire for retribution - a wish to take back what they have been deprived of by destiny. Through acts of theft or destruction, they compensate themselves for the emptiness of their own lives, dismissing with smug entitlement their violations of the social order. They act on the rationalization that they alone must restore the karmic imbalance with which life has burdened them.

For those who are merely somewhat resentful, and for whom some conscious controls remain intact, small transgressions and petty acquisitions often suffice to blunt the expression of more extreme characteristics. For the more severely disordered, however, the usurpation of others' earned achievements and possessions becomes the highest reward. Here, the pleasure lies in taking rather than in having. Like hungry animals pursuing prey, covetous psychopaths have an enormous drive, a rapaciousness. They manipulate others and treat them as pawns in their power games. Although they have little compassion for the effects of their behaviors, feeling little or no guilt for their actions, they remain at heart quite insecure about their power and their possessions; they never feel that enough has been aquired to make up for earlier deprivations. Regardless of their achievements, they remain ever jealous and envious, pushy and greedy, presenting ostentatious displays of materialism and conspicuous consumption. For the most pat, they are completely self-centered and self-indulgent, often profligate and wasteful, unwilling to share with others for fear that they will take again what was so desperately desired in early life. Hence, such psychopaths never achieve a deep sense of contentment. They feel unfulfilled, empty, and forlorn, regardless of their successes, and remain forever dissatisfied and insatiable. Believing they will continue to be deprived, these psychopaths show minimal empathy for those who are exploited and deceived. Some may become successful entrepreneurs, exploiters of others as objects to satisfy their desires.

Here an active exploitiveness, manifested through greed and the appropriation of others' possessions, becomes a central motivating force. The covetous psychopaths experience not only a deep and pervasive sense of emptiness - a powerful hunger for the love and recognition not received in early life - but also an insecurity that they perhaps really are intrinsically less than others, somehow deserving of life's marginal dispensations.


This P is socially withdrawn, often dirty, unkempt. Odd thinking is observed. This P is occasionally insecure and irresolute, perhaps even faint hearted and cowardly. Psychopathic aggression in this variant, when present, represents a paradoxical response to felt dangers and fears, intended to show persecutors that one is not anxious or weak, and will not succumb to external pressure or coercion. Such craven and cowardly individuals are spineless psychopaths. These personalities commit violent acts as a means of overcoming fearfulness and of securing refuge. For them, aggression is not instrinsically rewarding, but is instead essentially a counterphobic act. Anticipating real danger, projecting hostile fantasies, spineless types feel it is best to strike first, hoping thereby to forestall their antagonists.


This P can charismatically charm and manipulate groups of people to achieve his goal. Often found in religion and politics. His goals: manipulation, control, compliance, money, position, attention. He masterfully targets the naive and vulnerable.


This P never learns from his past follies. He is doomed to forever repeat bad judgment after bad judgment. Poor impulse control is a hallmark. This type of psychopath often engages in risk taking for itself - for the excitement it provides, and for the sense of feeling alive and involved in life, rather than for such purposes as material gain or defense of reputation. Many of these individuals respond before thinking, act impulsively, and behave in an unreflective and uncontrolled manner. Beyond such simple impulsiveness, however, the risk-taking psychopaths are in addition substantially fearless, unblanched by events that most people experience as dangerous or frightening. In contrast to many psychopaths, whose basic motivations are largely aggrandizement and revenge, these individuals are driven by the need for excitement and stimulation, for adventures that are instrinsically treacherous. They are, in effect, thrill seekers, easily infatuated by opportunities to prove their mettle or open their possibilities, The factors that make them psychopathic are the undependability and irresponsibility of their actions, and their disdain for the effects of their behaviours on others as they pursue a restless chase to fulfill one capricious whim after another. The introverted variation of this type may turn more specifically towards substance abuse - alchohol, heroin, speed, or whater drug - as a way to get his thrills and excitement without the more overt behaviors of the former.

These daredevils are attracted to thrills like lemmings to cliffs. Look for: Sex, drugs, and rock Ďní roll. They will draw you in with: Fun, excitement, and adorable adolescent rebelliousness. They will drain you dry by: Overdoing everything exciting, and underdoing everything else. Thrillseeker P's are the one's you see everyday: Cowboys, cowgirls, day traders, party animals, rebels without a cause, and that one lover you just can't seem to forget. DEFENSIVE STRATEGY: Keep your brain engaged even when theirs are turned off. Especially then.


This P is suspicious of everything and everyone. Usually there's no reason. He is terrified of exposure and may be potential dangerous if threat of exposure is imminent. This P will often accuse others of wrong-doing, and will never accept responsibility. It doesn't matter whether he made the mess or not, someone else must take the blame. A master at projection. Their features frequently blend with those of the paranoid personality disorder. They are characterized best by their autocratic power orientation and by their mistrust, resentment, and envy of others. Underlying these features is a ruthless desire to vindicate themselves for past wrongs by cunning revenge or callous force, if necessary.

Left to their own ruminations, they begin to imagine a plot in which every facet of the environment plays a threatening and treacherous role. Moreover, through the intrapsychic mechanism of projection, they attribute their own venom to others, ascribing to them the malice and ill will they feel within themselves. As the line between objective antagonism and imagined hostility becomes thin, the belief takes hold that others are intentionally persecuting them. Not infrequently, persecutory delusions combine with delusions of grandeur; however, these later beliefs play a secondary role among these psychopaths, in contrast to their primacy among fanatic paranoid personalities.

Preeminent among malignant psychopaths is their need to retain their independence and cling tenaciously to the belief in their own self-worth. Their need to protect their autonomy and strength may be seen in the content of their persecutory delusions. Malevolence on the part of others is viewed as neither casual or random; rather, it is seen as designed to intimidate, offend, and undermine the individuals' self-esteem. "They" are seeking to weaken the psychopaths' "will," to destroy their power, to spread lies, to thwart their talents, to control their thoughts, and to immobilize and subjugate them. These psychopaths dread losing their self-determination; their persecutory fantasies are filled with fears of being forced to submit to authority, of being made soft and pliant, and of being tricked to surrender their self-determination


This type of P is considered the archetypical delinquent, openly pursuing a diverse range of antisocial behaviors and often in trouble with the law. The antisocial psychopath is the main type found in prisons, whose availability for psychological testing results in a disproportionate representation of this type in psychopathy descriptions. The American 'Diagnostic and Statistical Manual' (DSM) description of psychopathy is based on this group of offenders, to whom the manual gives the name 'antisocial personality disorder'. Descriptive criteria for this category are as follows:

1. failure to conform to social norms with respect to lawful behaviors as indicated by repeatedly performing acts that are grounds for arrest
2. deceitfulness, as indicated by repeated lying, use of aliases, or conning others for personal profit or pleasure
3. impulsivity or failure to plan ahead
4. irritability and aggressiveness, as indicated by repeated physical fights or assaults
5. reckless disregard for safety of self or others
6. consistent irresponsibility, as indicated by repeated failure to sustain consistent work behavior or honor financial obligations
7. lack of remorse, as indicated by being indifferent to or rationalizing having hurt, mistreated, or stolen from another

Posted by: Anonymous

Re: 16 Faces of a Psychopath - 10/29/02 10:51 PM


The used-car salesman is a metaphor for the psychopath who can sell you anything, even themselves. Unlike the charmer above, this psychopath uses a quick talking 'sales-pitch' to catch people out. Their main techniques are: (a). Do it because you like me - It's easy to like these types. In the short period of time when there is some doubt as to whether you are going to give them what they want, these psychopaths can sprinkle with wit and glow and synthetic kindness. The display usually ends three seconds after you give in, but while it lasts it smells sweet as cherry blossoms on a warm spring day. The main reason that people like other people is that they perceive them to be similar to themselves. These P's usually begin their sales pitch by establishing a perception of similarity. They watch you closely. They ask questions about who you are, what you like, and what you think, and then profess to like and believe the same sorts of things. Unless you are paying attention, their probes and ploys can seem like innocent chit-chat. (b). Do it to reciprocate - These types would have you believe that because they gave you something, you owe them something back. In their view, compliments are like free samples those motherly types hand out in grocery stores. The purpose is not to nourish you, but to get you to buy. (c). Do it because everybody else is doing it - This person will try to convince you that you are 'part of the crowd' or 'are in the group' of whatever craven scheme they are enticing you to join. (d). This offer is good for a limited time only - These individuals know that anything sought after or scarce takes on a value far beyond its intrinsic worth, and will use this knowledge to push your buttons. (e). Do it to be consistent - Being consistent in our behaviors and choices helps provide the important feeling of selfhood. But foolish consistency is the psychological principle that makes manipulation possible. People also try to maintain an internal sense of consistency between their actions and beliefs. This is hard enough to do without careful thought. It's almost impossible with a psychopath trying to confuse your perceptions about who you are and what you believe by making you cross one little line after another. (f) You can believe me, I'm an authority - These psychopaths know that people are likely to do what authority figures tell them. (g). Do it or else - This P knows that one of the main reasons people listen to an authority figure is the fear that they will be punished if they don't. These are just some of the techniques the used-car salesman P will use, but use them he will in a great variety of situations - even with friends and family members, this psychopath will apply his hard sell to get what he wants.


This malevolent subtype is one of the least attractive of the psychopathic variants. These individuals are particularly vindictive and hostile; their retributive impulses are discharged in a hateful and destructive defiance of conventional social life. Distrustful of others and anticipating betrayal and punishment, they have aquired a cold-blooded ruthlessness, an intense desire to gain revenge for the real or imagined mistreatment to which they were subjected in childhood. Here we see a sweeping rejection of tender emotions and a deep suspicion that others' efforts at goodwill are merely ploys to deceive and undo them. They may assume a chip-on-the-shoulder attitude, a readiness to lash out at those whom they wish to destroy or can use as scapegoats for their revengeful impulses. Many are fearless and guiltless, inclined to anticipate and search out betrayal and punitiveness on the part of others. The primary psychopathic characteristics of these individuals blend with those of the sadistic or paranoid personality (or both), reflecting not only a deep sense of deprivation and a desire for compensatory retribution, but also an intense suspiciousness and hostility. Many murderers and serial killers fit this psychopathic pattern. Such persons might be described as belligerent, mordant, rancorous, vicious, malignant, brutal, callous, truculent, and vengeful.

To "prove" their courage, malevolent psychopaths may even court punishment. Rather than serving as a deterrent, however, punishment often reinforces their desire for retribution. In positions of power, they often brutalize others to confirm their self-image of strength. If they are faced with consistent failure, beaten down in efforts to dominate and control others, or finding aspirations far outdistancing their luck, their feelings of frustration, resentment, and anger mount to a point where their controls give way to raw brutality or secretive acts of vengeful hostility. Spurred by repeated rejection and driven by an increasing need for retribution, aggressive impulses will surge into the open. At these times, the psychopaths' behaviors may become outrageously and flagrantly antisocial. Not only do they show minimal guilt or remorse for their violent acts, but they may instead display an arrogant contempt for the rights of others.

What distinguishes malevolent psychopaths is their capacity to understand guilt and remorse, if not necessarily to experience it. Although they are capable of giving a perfectly rational explanation of ethical concepts - that is, they know the difference between right and wrong - they seem nevertheless incapable of feeling it. These psychopaths often relish menacing others, making them cower and withdraw. They are combative and seek to bring more pressure upon their opponents than their opponents are willing to tolerate or to bring against them. Most make few concessions and are inclined to escalate as far as necessary, never letting go until others succumb. In contrast to other subtypes, however, malevolent psychopaths recognize the limits of what can be done in their own self-interest. They do not lose self-conscious awareness of their actions, and press forward only if their goals of retribution and destructiveness are likely to be achieved. Accordingly, their adversarial stance is somewhat contrived and works as a bluffing mechanism to ensure that others will back off. Infrequently, actions are taken that may lead to misjudgment and counterreaction in these matters.


This P proclaims his high moral standing, and other people are seen as immoral. He wants justice for society. "Hang 'em high" he says about the murderer on the 6:00 news. These P's may be found in the professions of school teacher, prison officer, religious leader (or devout attendant), manager of an orphanage or hospital for the mentally ill, or similar jobs which require an morally responsible presentation. They may be very quick to exploit corrupt political or social situations as an excuse for being brutal and cruel, political situations like those seen in Nazi Germany, or Apartheid South Africa, which supply a socially sanctioned way to enact their pathology. When this P is not being 'watched', he/she often lies, cheats, schemes, corrupts, abuses, deceives, controls, manipulates, and torments, while portraying himself to be the morally upstanding victim when questions are asked. This P is a consumate image maker and will flaunt all credentials and accomplishments, often bullying his/her family into perfect presentation for the public, in order to reinforce his/her position as a paragon of goodness. Gaining admiration, attention, even glances from others, and evoking envy are central ploys. These 'morally compensated' psychopaths cannot depend upon love because, like all psychopaths, they have a severe deficit in the area of emotion. Instead, their egos work out a moral system which is fool-proof in any and every situation. The result, as paradoxical as it may seem, is usually a well-developed outward morality but one woefully lacking in love. Such compensated psychopaths continually and at all costs uphold moral conventions, fanatically defending their moral systems. Were they to relax the hold on their moral code, the entire structure might well collapse like a house of cards, revealing their psychopathic nature. It is rather like cooking, a poor cook sticks assiduously to the recipe, while a gifted one can change this and that according to a momentary whim. This P's saintliness or rigid morality, then, is a cover for an underlying grandiosity, immorality, and sadistic drive to power typical of many psychopaths.


This psychopath will choose lifestyles or communities where his immorality is considered a gift. He/she blends in well with other artists, writers, countercultural-bohemians, and revolutionaries. In such circles the psychopath becomes almost indistinguishable from the non-psychopath, and can comfortably seek out victims who are willing to view his pathos as 'misunderstood genius', a person whose insights are wasted on the morally burdened masses.

This P will trick you into feeling that it is you who are psychologically crippled for following social conventions like decency, respect, restraint, fairness, or justice, and will introduce you to the "liberated" life of untrammeled selfishness, rudeness, impulsivity, and sexual perversity. This type will frequently display the pseudo-intellectual style of a Bohemian. This P:

1) Will spend hours absorbed in painting a single flower. He interrupts his work only to make dramatic sounds of exhaustion and angsty-artistic grunts, demands for water and other sustenance, and frequent sweeps of his furrowed, sweaty brow. When his day's work is done, he proudly displays a painting of his own penis in a lovely shade of lilac, and with petals attached. His painting is generous in its depiction of its subject.

2) Peppers conversations with cultural, literary, and historical allusions, whether relevant or not. Says "ahh" and "hmm" a lot when listening to someone more knowledgable than himself. His favorite partner in conversation is the pre-teen girl, because she cannot dispute his opinions on Nietzsche. Nietzsche does not hang out at the mall.

3) Your favorite subject is--suprise!!--his as well. And he knows much more about it than you. Take feminism, for example. If you consider yourself a feminist, he will let you in on the "real deal" with many artists, will tell you if they are, in fact, good for the image or self-esteem of woman. It goes like this: If he likes someone's work, then they are a feminist; if you like someone's work and he does not, it is only because they make women look bad. This is why "Penthouse" is perfectly harmless--good for women, in fact, because it empowers them sexually; Madonna is bad for women because she traded her feminine curves for muscle, and makes young ladies feel bad about their bodies the way they are meant to be. Which is without muscles.

4) Will invite the family to bond with him over a crossword puzzle, which means that the clues are read to him for him to solve. No help please, you are wrong and will just slow him down.

5) Also likes to bond over "Jeopardy!" which means that he shouts out the answers to all questions before they have been read completely, thus preventing anyone else from participating. If anyone else should get a question which he does not, he will get up to go to the kitchen or bathroom. You see, the reason he didn't get that question is that he was thinking about his snack. He will mutter the answer after Alex has said it, agreeing that the host was correct. The game may proceed. Has never tried out for "Jeopardy!"

6) Is the local King of Lawn Sculpture, which consists of concrete representations made from plaster casts of his body parts. His pride and joy is the forearm and hand with middle finger extended. The significance of this, which even he does not know, is that he is painfully aware of the fact that he is a blue-collar worker with no formal higher education, surrounded by over-educated, well-travelled hippies. And gosh darn they're nice. They can intelligently discuss any academic subject the psychopath raises, but alas, he cannot.

This P is the literal emodiment of the term con-'artist'.


These psychopaths often work as doctors, lawyers, university lecturers, psychiatrists, specialists, scientists, preists, and in other intellectually oriented professions. Clientele, patients, and students of these P's are often taken advantage of in social, financial, or sexual ways. These types are sometimes schooled in their chosen topics, but a good number are known to fudge their qualifications. Robert Hare reports - "They have no hesitation in forging and brazenly using impressive credentials to adopt, chameleonlike, professional roles that give them prestige and power. When things fall apart, as they usually do, they simply pack up and move on. In most cases they select professions in which the requisite skills are easy to fake, the jargon easy to learn, and the credentials unlikely to be thoroughly checked. If the profession also places a high premium on the ability to persuade or manipulate others, or to "lay on the hands," so much the better. Thus, psychopaths find it easy to pose as ministers, counselors, and psychologists. But some of their other poses are much more difficult to pull off. There are psychopaths who sometimes pose as medical doctors, and they may diagnose, dispense drugs, and even perform surgery. That they frequently endanger the health or lives of their patients does not bother them in the least."

As mentioned above, these P's do not always forge their qualifications, and sometimes do complete their studies in a chosen academic field. But whether formally trained or not, the marking feature of the academic psychopath is the use of formal ideas as a vehicle for interpersonal communication, and a psychic style relying predominately on intellectual functioning. This type has the universal psychopathic-deficits in emotional functioning, but unlike other psychopaths may not cultivate phoney emotional skills to use on others. They may instead degrade emotion as something messy and unreliable, and will rely solely on the manipulative powers of intellectual-authority with the backing of their office.

Most unsettling are the coldly calculated violations of power and trust committed by these psychopathic professionals whose very job it is to help the vulnerable. It is very common amongst these individuals to callously use their positions to take sexual advantage of their charges, leaving them feeling bewildered and betrayed. And if victims complain, they may be traumatized further by a system primed to side with the perpetrating psychologist, doctor, or teacher.

Source: msn groups - The Emptied Soul Psychopathy chat site

**edited to add link
Posted by: Anonymous

Re: 16 Faces of a Psychopath - 10/30/02 06:39 AM


Thank you for those posts. I printed them off as I have to work today and want to study them later.

The picture is getting clearer. much clearer.

Things are starting to fall into place as why he did this, and why he did that.

Unfortunately for the target,well. . . I'll speak for myself here, there has to be some history before you recognize this for what it is.

In this case, once I was "IN", I had to stay with it until I had an answer.

Given my background in abuse of every kinds, pain has to be excruiating before I know it's pain. In my childhood, I was the family scapegoat. Everything was my fault.

I wish I never had this experience, but the redeeming quality in it is this. I can CLEARLY see the pattern now.

It IS them. I was always "trying to make it work". It had to be me of course, my fault. If I did more, was smarter, prettier, more whatever. Now I have a point or reference, I know what to look for.

I was reflecting the past two days on how much of my life has been spent "trying to figure" THEM out. And then to realize, I was trying and loving a SHELL. . .for years.

But then, I had this thought. Now I know, now I know! I have new information. I have a point of reference. I see they have a WHOLE DIFFERENT reality. And then I thought, it's never to late.

I have fewer years ahead of me than behind me. But the years I have left can be P free based on the knowledge I have found here.

It will take work but I HAVE worked on myself and my stuff for YEARS. Yes. . .it will be a fight to the finish!

But I know this, I have more hope today than I did a few weeks ago. Knowledge is power. For me that means personal power. I know now, I've been dealing and trying to relate and understand people who are EMPTY, TOTALLY EMPTY.

And that relieves me of another thing.

I don't know whether anyone else does this but I "get into my head" and start thinking "if I say this, or if I do that" maybe THAT will make an impact. Do you know how much space that's going to leave in my head now, knowing, it dosen't MATTER WHAT I SAY OR DO? The guy is EMPTY, with his own agenda that has NOTHING in common with mine.

So, now, (yes even now, old habit to break) - I have stop myself. . .and say. . . STOP! He's empty. He's wired differently. . .you can't reach him. Only God can.

Gosh, I appreciate you all. Your help, your posts, your validation, your support. And your questions! I really appreciate it when you come back with questions ((((Cherie ))) When I walk away, they really make me think. I'm sincerely looking for answers, so I try to think it through. Then coming back and replying helps me be clear on my own thinking. What a gift! I can see now, was BORN into a nest of P's, starting with Grandpa P, the most evil P of all.

It's a miracle (I don't say that lightly) that I've made it this far.

But I am determined in my spirit to start every day looking forward now. Yes, I've had some very bad experiences. But yesterday this thought came to me after I was reading that book Verbally Abusive Relationships. I felt so discouraged. All my life has been full of abuse. But I thought! I'm putting this book in the hands of my daughters, and my grandaughters! Already, that cycle has started in them. Not my youngest daughters so much but my oldest one has gone through pretty much the same experiences I have. And. . .I see the pattern repeated in her daughters. Right now both of them are in HORRIBLE relationships.

So if nothing else (and I'm NOT trying to sound like Saint Finished here, but this is the only way I can find any value in this experience). If all I've gone through can save them from going as far as I have with it. . that will be my reward in this whole deal.

And in relation to where I am now in my life and going forward, I thought of this old saying "Today is the first day of the rest of your life". I thought Yeah, I only have today for sure. . .and I think I'm making progress. . .

Have a great day. . . :-) and thanks again betrayed for those posts!
Posted by: Anonymous

Re: 16 Faces of a Psychopath - 10/30/02 07:23 AM

"Today is the first day of the rest of your life".

That statement has so much more depth now, doesn't it? My experience mirrors yours exactly. And even the experience with the P was almost like he came to heal me, rather than destroy me. When the student is ready, the teacher will come. It had to take something so horrendous to wake me up. There is so much more information out there, now, starting with the women's movement, men's movement, PTSD with Vietnam vets, talking about childhood abuse. A giant grassroots movement, taking all this out of the secret psychiatric trade. And I still say with that cornerstone book by Evans.

Today is the first day of your life. Have a nice day, ((Finished)))

Posted by: Anonymous

Re: 16 Faces of a Psychopath - 10/30/02 09:14 AM

Thank you for the 16 Faces of P. It has helped me to sort out the P I am dealing with, who embodies the variables below:
It seems true that once you are hooked, the urge is to stick around until you sort out the details. It's all too bizarre, to say the least.
Posted by: Anonymous

Re: 16 Faces of a Psychopath - 10/30/02 10:43 AM


What an uplifiting post you've written here!

You wrote:

"Given my background in abuse of every kinds, pain has to be excruiating before I know it's pain. In my childhood, I was the family scapegoat. Everything was my fault."

Me too. Family scapegoat...yes.

"I have fewer years ahead of me than behind me. But the years I have left can be P free based on the knowledge I have found here."

Very real and sobering truth here. I feel a sense of urgency in this realisation that I'm in the stage of life where I have awareness of this....the preciousness of life.

"It will take work but I HAVE worked on myself and my stuff for YEARS. Yes. . .it will be a fight to the finish!"

I see myself as a warrior, too. I think all of us who take this on are. To battle that evil energy and stay intact and grow I believe one has to be a spiritual and very creative warrior.

"And in relation to where I am now in my life and going forward, I thought of this old saying "Today is the first day of the rest of your life". "

And finally this is the great truth. Thanks for the reminder!

As for my questions; I'm so glad you don't mind. I'm a very curious person....always asking why(?).lol!

You've helped me today, finished. Thank you!!!

Posted by: Anonymous

Re: 16 Faces of a Psychopath - 10/30/02 10:47 AM


Thank you for posting this. Very thought provoking and informative. I have some personal responses to this and will post about it soon. A little crunched for time right now.

Posted by: Anonymous

Re: 16 Faces of a Psychopath - 10/30/02 07:52 PM

the one about lying reminds me of my friend who always ask me for money and everytime i remind him that i do not want to see him anymore because all he wants is money and right after he ask for it i say you see you just ask for it and he says i did not

Posted by: Anonymous

Re: 16 Faces of a Psychopath - 10/30/02 09:36 PM


I gotta ask, do you pronounce your name like Sherrie or is it like French - Cher-ie?

>As for my questions; I'm so glad you don't mind. I'm a very curious person....always asking why(?).lol! <

I'm the same way!

I think that's what got me in trouble with P#2. I couldn't stop until I had answers. Never in my wildest dreams did I think it would bring me here!

I like the questions. The clearer I can understand it in my own mind and explain it, helps me reinforce what I'm learning. Then when I get a response that I'm getting it . . .well. . .then I can keep moving forward. I've been stuck a long time.

Thank you so much for your gracious comments on my post. I really appreciated that :-)

I also appreciate the straightforwardness of your posts. You are direct and to the point, it's a great quality and I've learned alot from you.

Thank you again. . .
Posted by: Anonymous

Re: 16 Faces of a Psychopath - 10/30/02 10:04 PM


>"Today is the first day of the rest of your life". <

> That statement has so much more depth now, doesn't it?<

It sure does. It is hard to believe that it is almost a month ago since all this happened. It seems like I've come so far since then.

>And even the experience with the P was almost like he came to heal me, rather than destroy me. <

I feel that way too. Kris posted on October 18th (I'll have to go find it) something that changed my life forever. The entire post was incredible. But at the end she spoke of trying to figure out which marker led into hell and which one led out.

How that spoke to me was, because of my past, I actually had to get IN the fire to find my way OUT. I'll have to go back and read that. It was really profound. (It was in the post about the unrecognized heart).

You know another thing I read (in my search for answers) was in a John Gray book. I thought of this recently as well. He said, every new relationship we enter into we try to heal old wounds. If the love is strong enough, our old stuff comes up, and love is able to zap and heal those old insecurities.

Just a therory: I wonder, when P starts a new relationship, do you think that's what they are looking for. I mean, WAY DOWN DEEP? But because of their wiring, they just can't make the connection. The whole deal just misfires and then there we go again. What they want and need most. . .is waht they fear.

(((((betrayed)))) thank you. . .
Posted by: Anonymous

Re: 16 Faces of a Psychopath - 11/14/02 08:30 AM

I marked the 16 faces of a Psychopath as my favorite. I am new to this site, and I am so very happy I found it. It is so reassuring to know that I am not alone and that others have experienced what I have rather they are associated with a P. spouse, friend, family member, coworker, etc. We have all suffered severely at the hand of the P. The P. I know has destroyed my spirit for friendship and for my career. I am making my way back, but recovery is a long and difficult process, as I still associate with the P. on a very minimal basis. I know anyone that has known a P. understands how hard it is to break free, and rebuild our lifes. Someone on this site said that they have a "no contact policy". That is my goal, and I know with support I will make it. Thank again everybody for being willing to share.
Posted by: Anonymous

Re: 16 Faces of a Psychopath - 11/14/02 10:37 AM

Hello betterway and welcome to the forum. I hope you find what you are seeking. Please be careful since you are still in contact.

Posted by: Anonymous

Re: 16 Faces of a Psychopath - 11/22/02 09:49 AM

first I would like to say that my heart goes out to everyone that has discovered this information, I want everyone to know that i, myself is in this same situation, everyday i am trying to think of o way to get out of this mess. One problem this is my husband and we have a daughter. i started to confirm this behavior with my husband when i one day went to the book store and stumbled across this book call How to Recognize verbal abuse in a relationship, that book confiemed my theory that this indiviual was trying to use psychology on me, then i got another book called how to defend yourseld against verbal abuser, then i got a book called walking on eggshell about borderline personality disorders. I have learned alot from these three books but the one thing that gets me if you let them know that there actions are not your responsibilities and so forth then that becomes a problem my story can go deeper then this but one thing that i know is that i am going to somehow some way get out of this relationship because this is unhealthy for any individual and for children i have let my whol family and friends that are close to me know because they protray to be one way in front of people but then while alone they are the person that they really are. THE DEVIL LIVING IN HELL! I came across this forum and was stunned but l check this forum every day. Once out we can survive I just have to get out!
Posted by: Anonymous

Re: 16 Faces of a Psychopath - 11/22/02 02:26 PM

gsharp1. . .

Glad you are here. . . this place is a sanctuary.

Posted by: Dianne E.

Re: 16 Faces of a Psychopath - 11/22/02 04:19 PM

Hi gsharp1, welcome to the forum. Please stay safe. Have you read Dr. Hare's book yet?

Posted by: Anonymous

Re: 16 Faces of a Psychopath - 10/13/04 07:21 AM

Where did you get the information on the explosive psychopath? My sister has had us walking on eggshells for so many years and has ruined every holiday and vacation for everyone b/c of these horrible vicious outbursts. She's presently in jail for homicide.
Posted by: Anonymous

Re: 16 Faces of a Psychopath - 10/13/04 12:29 PM

Hi Outsider,


The most useful information I have found on the psychology of violently abusive individuals is by the published psychiatrist Donald Dutton, he operates out of British Columbia, Canada.

I like the way that you are open to the possibility that your ex-partner, although he hasn't killed anybody, is a P, and that your sister, who you suggest is convicted of homicide, possibly isn't a P.

Do you have any insights into why your sister is the way that she is, what could have lead her to commit homicide, and why you believe she isn't a P?

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on these matters.

Posted by: laurenksm

Re: 16 Faces of a Psychopath - 08/15/12 10:22 AM


This post is very eye-opening and puts my ex into catagories that are relevant. I listed the ones that I know he is from most significant, but in saying that, he is each of them near evenly.

He knows who and what he is. When we got back together after being away from each other for 3 months he told me that he will most probably hurt me. He didn't care to understand when I said that by saying he will, he is setting himself up to. I believe he wanted to hurt me.

I started to see someone after being away from him for 2 months (when we broke up) and I believe that that really really annoyed him.

I saw him while on holiday and that's how we ended getting back together. We spent the night together and for half of it he cried and cried and i mean he balled and sobbed! I had never seen a man so upset and thought that he must really truly love me. But even if he did love me he ended up hurting me very badly (of course).

He told me I was a manipulator and a liar. He stated to me that I had manipulated the man I met after him into moving closer to where I was - which was ridiculous. How can you manipulate someone to move their entire life for you? When I got defensive he then said "see! look how you are reacting if you weren't guilty you wouldn't be defensive"... I couldn't believe what I was hearing! He is so lost and sure in his paranoid delusions that he thinks everyone else is the same.

He cheated on everyone of his ex girlfriends with 3-4 DIFFERENT girls and with each girlfriend!

His reasoning was that he had a friend when he was younger that used girls and he thought that he could do it too because he wanted to sleep with girls and couldn't get them (which is a lie because he is very attractive on the outside but probably because he is terribly ugly on the inside).

He told me that he was ready to settle into a monogamous relationship and was prepared to give it everything he had with me and wouldn't cheat. But the whole time together he would message girls that he would claim were just friends but really they were girls that he had slept with and that still liked him. I know now that he liked to string them along because they have never known the real him.

He doesn't have any of his ex's who he is friends with and now i know why - the all ran away scared and damaged - like me. One of his ex's who is a Thai girl who he said used him terribly for his money and apparently she cheated on him a lot, he kind of kept in contact with. When we broke up he went and saw her in another town and they had sex (yep he told me). This was after he declared his undying love for me - 7 days after to be exact. I was devastated and told him to leave me alone for good. 2 months later I saw him on the holiday and we got back together AFTER I broke up with a good guy which I now regret very much.

He genuinely thinks everyone is a liar, a cheat, a manipulator, a backstabber, a thief just as he is.

I also believe that to some degree (which I am not overly sure of) he was grooming me to get to my 11 yr old daughter. He was interested in her daughters sexuality by asking questions about if she knew about sex and masturbation. I told him no not yet. He then asked me if i'd told her what masturbation was. I started to feel uneasy but he started to laugh and said (from memory) "i only ask because when i was a kid i got told it was bad to masturbate so i hardly ever did it and also one of our friends said that when she was young she thought it was a bad thing to do too, so you should tell your daughter about it now so she doesn't feel bad about wanting to do it".

I told him that I will talk to her about it when the time is right and that I don't want to talk to him about it again. He brought it up 2-3 times again later on in the relationship but would make jokes about my sensitivity toward the topic.

After he said this I felt weird about him being near my daughter and when we moved so I could be closer to him and where he was located for work, I put toilet paper in the key whole on the bathroom door. In the back of my mind I didn't think he would do anything but I thought it was terribly strange for him to be concerned about what my daughter might be doing in private.

I am extremely close with my daughter and I know that he never touched her or even near got the chance to as I have asked her about it.
After we had been together for 14 months and just before we broke up, he told me that he was worried that my daughter might get angry at him about something and accuse him of touching her! He said that one of his friends from work had gone to jail because he had been blamed for touching his girlfriends daughter but that he didnít do it and that the daughter was just getting him back for something.
He said that he had head of a lot of kids using this and then regret saying it when the guy goes to jail for it. He said that if that happened to him he would loose it and go crazy for being blamed for something he didnít do!

Also, the same night he told me this we spoke about things that happened to us when we were kids. He told me about him and his cousin 'touching' each other and I told him about when I was 6 a 19 year old male neighbour had put his hands down my underwear and that that had effected me a little bit. Not long after we spoke of this he seemed VERY turned on and we had "passionate" sex. I at the time thought that we had great sex because we had told each other extremely sensitive things that had happened to us while growing up, but now when I look back I am SCARED to think that he was turned on because maybe he was imagining that HE was the one who was doing that to me when I was younger.

All of these things that I have mentioned are very raw to me (as i am sure most of you will understand) and what I find weird is that now that I have discovered what he is (a monster) everything is coming back to me. There are much MUCH more things that he has said and done to me that I haven't mentioned as yet, such as the quotes from serial killers that he said to me while we were out bush walking and alone and how he lay on my stomach while I was in hospital with pancreatitis (caused from extreme stress and not alcoholism - I don't drink).

He is a very very disturbed man but he truly hides it very very well. But I have discovered who he is and I am tossing up whether to tell him that I am aware of what he is and what he was doing to me. I have already called him a narcissist and told him he has no feelings while we were together and when we would fight. I think that that's why he is done with me - because I have already shared my beliefs about him to his face in the past. But I am thinking of bringing up how he would talk to me about my daughters sexuality so that he won't dare try anything with someone elses child. I truly feel that as a mother this is my obligation. Would you agree?

I am actually writing a book about my experience with him because I feel that disassociating myself through writing as a third person will help me to mend.

Thanks for reading and please write me back because I feel very alone and am left with thinkng about his behaviour every night. It's 1:30am and for the past 3 weeks (since discovering) I haven't been able to sleep until at least 2:30am. I hate this!
Posted by: Hegin

Re: 16 Faces of a Psychopath - 02/10/16 12:36 PM

I've just found this extremely useful post.

I am going through medical published research and for methodological reasons, typologies like this are very hard to construct. By reading through research, personal accounts and psychopath published stories, I find that:

1. there is a high degree of overlap between the types

2. the stalker/obsessive psychopath, usually just a facet of some other sub-type, is not listed. The forensic psychiatrist that assisted in my case studied that type. It was his MS thesis, actually.