I don't think it's unhealthy, it's actually very healthy. You need to understand what happened and make sure it does not happen again and not just be heart broken and never realise what hit you. Sure it feels like an obsession now but I'm pretty sure it will go away sooner or later.


Same with me and he was complaining all the time that I'm controlling him too much and he has no time to do other things. Surely I was and that would be completely stupid in a normal relationship but this was not normal by any standard and I felt all the time he was lying to me (each time when confronted he would tell me I was paranoid but each time I actually checked on him I was right - I guess I was always right also when I didn't check). And still he managed to find time to mess around. I'm not sure if he was indeed sleeping around (surely with his new GF at the very end but that was pretty much obvious and I suspect it started much earlier) but I know he was meeting with her and going out when he told me he was so sick and tired and needed sleep and so on instead of spending time with me. And I was getting more and more obsessed that he's lying and more controlling and then he would get a good excuse to accuse me of being a control freak. In the end I ended up labelled crazy borderline since I had behaved like one not being able to stand his lies but not being able to kick his butt and let go. My fault but on some level I have some satisfaction of giving him a taste of his own medicine - he wanted a game and sure had one and it was not all that fun for him afterall. It was not worth it though and I wouldn't do it again. Just recognise the Psychopath early on and don't get involved.

That's pretty insane... and hope he's just stopping at "liking" it...

Same about the sick and tired excuse! He did that to me on VALENTINES DAY I spent 3 hours making him a beautiful cake (he got me this shitty sweater and ripped it off my body afterwards during our break up fight) and I bought 2 movie tickets and was so excited and called him to come meet me. He answered that he felt depressed and didn't want to do anything. Now i realize that during the last 2-3 months he had become less and less interested in me, i was always talking and typing so much and he would answer 1 word answers, would go offline on me and not tell me where he's going. Would tell me he's having a night in watching Netflix and I knew it wasn't true now.

I still feel sick to my stomach that he was banging someone else on Valentine's Day though.

I don't actually care anymore. Somehow I got detached from this guy, the only times I ever think like I miss him is when I remember times he actually behaved like a human being but then for each moment like that I have 100 other when he showed his true face. I actually like remembering myself then, there was pretty nice moments too when I felt good when we had fun together (well, his was the wicked way but still). I don't really care so much, at least I had something real, he had his smoke and mirrors.

Good . And like I said before, I'm so so glad that the pieces came together about his [censored] up cheating & schemes nearly 4 months after I left him and the little affection/love that remained had disappeared. The only thing I miss is sex, but I can get that from someone who will worship my body instead of use it, who is not a slimy sex addict & who will not betray me any chance he gets.
At this point and after all the horrible things he put me through, he's just a ghost but a really evil one that still gives me shivers down my spine... If I were to bump into him in person in the city by accident and saw him I would vomit in my mouth.

I think I have had 3 Psychopath in my life time. The 1st used as the end of a beating I would come to while he finished. All I felt was numb if I came I felt ashamed and would apologize. My 2nd was distant mechanical. I would awake after and find him staring at the ceiling. With this last one, He was impotent. I shared information about my 1st Psychopath experience. Psychopath#3 would snuggle with me then molest me as I slept . He often gave me melatonin to help me sleep, or at least that is what he said it was. Finally in the end I woke up in the middle... Horrified at what he had done. He was sucking away at my breast like a vampire. It's been 6 weeks and I am still having flash backs of sexual abuse. He told me he masturbated over me while I slept. He even washed me and no response and He liked it that way!!!! Me dead to the world.

Hi toomuchstuff, welcome to our community. I think if you ever hear of someone getting caught having sex with a corpse they are highly likely to be a Psychopath. I think that is also why they are so attracted to porn. Someone here made a great comment that having sex with a Psychopath was something like he used their body to masturbate. Hope I am getting that quote straight but I think you will get what I am saying. They sure exhibit a very clear pattern.

Psychopath's and cliffs are a very dangerous thing.

Di

I was with him for 5 months if no one believed me in court than who was I going to ask for help from???

Hi, would you like to start a thread to tell your story so we can help support you? If we have more information we might be able to help you better. I am very sorry for your situation, it is quite typical that no one believes the victim, sadly.

Di

I appreciate it.