Thanks that is very helpful. And i have been there done that and what u say is too true thankyou.

I think I also know a good song (funnily, this is how I found out my Psychopath is a Psychopath - I was looking through the internetz in search of cues on narcissts and came across this song): The Zombies - She's not there.
When it comes to dreaming: my Psychopath doesn't dream (he told me about it when we talked about the movies and how some directors use dream-like reality in their work: he said he doesn't know since he has no dreams). Now it all makes sense to me: he did not understand metaphors, only appreciated art which he perceived as "logical" (and completely ignored the parts which every other person saw as emotional/dream-like etc.) and had no dreams...
I almost feel for him - dreaming is such a great thing, it's almost like you're missing on having a second life...