There is a memory I have my mother which is a big incident where she made me out to look like I am stealing.
I had not stolen anything. I had to go to swimming for gym class, and my bathing suit had torn. My mother new this. So she hid her bathing suit because she said she knew I would try to borrow it. I tried to call her at work a few times to ask to borrow it but she wouldn't answer her phone. I had to miss out on gym class instead.
She said she was one step ahead of me on this and she knew what I was trying to do. She threw me out of the house for a couple of weeks. I lived in some neighbors basement who was freaked out that I got treated like this. My job tried to get me sent to foster care.
My mother let me back home, and then proceeded to control my environment so much I was not allowed anywhere. I was not allowed to stay after school, talk on the phone. She said I was to be kept this way for months for all the trouble I caused. A friend of my brother called me a couple months later, and invited me out. Like a responsible kid in a normal situation, i left my mother a note. I called her and left a message on where I was, a phone number etc. my mother refused to come home for days. She went to a friends, and stayed there because I was a horrible daughter. I conversely decided not to come home. My brother called me and threatened me, and called a f***ing a***hole, and other pleasantries.
I guess I am bad for not going home but I don't think I had fair or honest communication from my mother, or a sense of safety when I was home. I never knew what was coming around the corner. She just seemed to create and look for anything to make it out like I am victimizing her, despite how she treated me.
I ended up in the shelter system for youth for a while. I called her weekly, gave her an address, a phone number, and asked to come home.
She reported to everyone she had no idea where I was, and I distressed her with how bad I was. I have an aunt I dislike strongly who has always told me I was horrible to my mother for running away, and my mom has every right to be angry at me for how badly I treat her.