The process (Starting With the Lightbulb Momement)

Ok, so I've come to study and understand psychopathy from a severe case, that has cause all sorts of abuse, trauma and you name it. The red flags were shown since childhood, Psychopath. does not even try to cooperate anymore but manipulate, lie, make things up, bring up his huge ego, enjoy causing self harm, enjoy harming others (this one has been going on more psychologically) along the years.

* The lightbulb moment (AHA)
* Trauma, Abuse, Temper Tantrums ... end up taking it no more.
* Confusion....
* Things start clearing up in your mind but the process can take years if you love Psychopath.
* You notice that you, your family are not the only one abused but EVERYONE he or she comes in contact with, including doctors, police and regular people.
* Again you are standing on your wits end and have to make a decision after so many suicide threads and all sorts of other threats.
* Lastly Psychopath. has to leave the nest and he does so many times, only to see him back robbed, broke, drunk you name it.
* Things get worse and you need to cut out all contact.
* Possibly, if nothing can be done and Psychopath. continues to try an use abuse against you, you need to take action: 112, police, law enforcement, or even have him tied to a bed in a psychiatric ward.
* Now Psychopath. is completely of the radar, you're still healing..
* Healing
* Getting your life back...

Psychopaths They don't change. EVER.

That's pretty sobering. Ours is 11 so we are not there yet but can see ourselves coming there. Now the plan is to get him out of the house as much as possible and in treatment. Still hoping there may be help somewhere or at least respite, but usually knowing that it will most likely end the way you describe. And all the way along, being misunderstood and judged by people who come in contact with the problem and cannot possibly understand.

Dadofrad