Diane,

I've seen his credit report. There's nothing extra I don't know about. He filed for bankruptcy so he'll have a hard time getting any credit cards.

We've filed joint tax returns for the past 5 years, so I know he has no outstanding taxes. He could have opened a new bank account somewhere, but like you said, if it's in his name......

Jan, I don't have any details yet on whether he will have to submit to a drug test. I'll find that out when I talk to another lawyer.

More later.

rnk

Does anyone know please how to access information on criminal records in the UK (preferably free)?

Hi

Document everything you can. Keep a daily journal. Back it up with hard proof when you can. Get witnesses. Work towards the day when you can extricate yourself from this parasite. And let him know nothing that he can take away from you or twist.

Good luck.

Diane1969

Hi Mati

I don't know but I will find out.One of my sisters is an ex probation officer and the other an ex prison officer. Both in the UK.

It may take me a couple of days as one of them legged it to Spain to get away from the "people" she was working with.

Jan

Please help, i have been married to my husband for six years. He is a chronic liar, he tells people that I am crazy and i need help and people actually believe him. For the last few weeks I made a decision that is time for me to leave and that's when hell broke loose. He has tried to kill me several times, he fixes drinks and we end up have pains in our stomach. He messes up with my cars by breaking headlights, signals, breaks, yanks off stirring wheel, bends house keys, messes up my computer, cuts off phone lines, takes his stepdaughter things and hide them. My daughter hides her homework under her bed. My daughter and I recieved some money, after I found out he had been stealing from us, I did not give him money anymore. He went into a frenzy and started destroying things here. I have repaired my transmission, car engine, I change tires all the time etc. I have encouraged him to go to counselling, he has twisted things around and he tells the counsellor that I am crazy. At first I did not want to believe what he was doing, and my focus was for him to get help. He has used this to his advantage. He looks so innocent and everybody believes him.

He is quite charming and has innocent looks untill you get to know him.

I have a temporary restraining order and also he will be going to court for hitting my daughter. I have filed a divorce. He told me that the counsellor gave him his tape to tape me. He drives me out of my mind. I am from another country and he is trying to get my green card revoked by telling lies.

He has me isolated, whenever I try to make friends he lies to them.

I am a laughing joke around here, he says I am lazy and I do not want to work.

i do not talk to anyone about the problems I am experiencing until i encountered your forum!

Is there a word of advice.

Hi survival,

Regarding this taping. You might find out if it is even legal in your state, many states it is not legal to tape without permission.

Unfortunately therapy could create a bigger monster. I wouldn't be encouraging a Psychopath to go to therapy. He might get ordered by the court to go and that will be too bad.

If I thought something in my drink tasted funny and someone has been trying to kill me I would keep samples of what he is giving you to drink. Take the samples to your local police and see if you can find a sympathetic ear to run some tests? Or ask the police for a referral to a lab who can run the tests. I saw a show and they caught one guy trying to poison his wife, the cops had set up cameras and caught him in action.

Di

Thank you so much, right now he is not living with us....I have a temporary restraining order until june 5th and the case will appear before the judge.

We are scared to death.... unfortunately I have no evidence.. I wish I had stumbled on this website earlier on.

Three weeks ago I told I am leaving him, I am taking my life back and I don't want to see him again, that's when he ran to the counsellor and told him he is afraid for his life.

The counsellor actually gave him his tape...3 years of leaving in fear, and running scared had me telling him what I think of him. I guess this is what he wanted to tape. I was taking my life back and for once I was not afraid.

I wondered if a counsellor is supposed to give a client tape to tape them...

Hi Suvival, that is a new one on me. I have never heard of a therapist giving someone a tape recorder to record things. Besides the fact that tapes can be altered etc.

Do you live in a State that has no fault divorces?

Di

Getstome,

I apologize if I have interpreted your post incorrectly, however something about your tone seems condescending. This forum is here so that members can safely share their experiences, as mk444 did. She wrote about some very painful and personal things. It is not your place to question why she "made such a big deal" out of something. Nor is it your place to speculate whether there was more to her story. You mentioned that you read her "interesting" account. I am not sure what you are insinuating by putting qoutations around the word interesting. I am fairly certain that mk444 would not appreciate your comments. We are here to offer each other validation and support, not to be critical or pass judgment.

yes i was married to a physcopath but didnt know it at the time. i divorced him in 05 now bad luck came my way and he invited me into his home cause we have 3 babies together.controlling, agressive dark man,lies to much and it was wierd because i thought he had 2 personalities.go to bed happy wake up angry and attacking. i have come close to being broken by him he always says im crazy and turns everything he does around on me.i started researching yesterday about physcopaths and i saw my x described to a t. he has no emotion, no good ones any way and he treats my kids and i like we are trophys,we make him look better.grandioso thoughts in his head but he never does anything. he wants to win at everything be in control of everyone and he lives to make us as miserable as possible, i hate him, what he is dioing to the kids. abusing me in front of the kids with his words and behavior and my 5 year old boy is gonna think this is how you treat a lady. crap,i am a believer in god and i know full well he will have to pay the price some day.