Thank you for responding. I'm just worn out.

Hi Twin, although I have never walked in your shoes, I feel a deep feeling of empathy for your pain. I am so very sorry for what is going on, it has to be the worst thing a person could imagine.

Di

I'm new to this, not sure if Liz123 will get the message.

Your story is amazingly similar to mine. I could not believe what you wrote. It sounded almost exactly like mine. If you care to hear my thoughts or some advice, please respond. I think I could help you deal with this.


Summer.

I'm sorry to hear that.

It is so very much more difficult to get to grips with anything when your energy has been totally drained.

My brother is a psychopath. Even if the doctor has never taken a look at him, he is.

I have stopped contacting him. I'm afraid of him, yet feel like a bad person for not going and seeing his kids. I feel sorry for his kids.

here's what makes think he is Psychopath. I find it easier to make a brief list about him.

- physical violence, particularly towards women
- domestic violence charges
- rape accusation/ sexually abusive behavior
- excessive pleasure seeking/ reckless behavior: severe alcoholism/ multiple sex partners/ dui
- excessive lying. That article about the speech patterns of Psychopaths sounds like him. We always know he is lying when he starts a sentence with "um." seems able to explain his way out of the ugliest things
- organized criminal activity. major fraud. grand larceny. being wanted on a federal level
- having kids, with whatever flavour of the month relationship he has. With about the amount of foreplanning as a spur of the moment decision to buy a puppy.
- kids seem like a pawn for him to get money etc etc.


He seems like a nice guy. He is really engaging, but I have always had to be of two minds around him.

- once he said he owned this apartment and that he would pay the taxes, and maintenance fees so I could live there rent free while he moved out of the country. knowing the offer was too good to be true I turned him down. it turned out he did not own the apartment- he owed 1000's on backrent, and was just looking for someone to unload on.
-he used to have a thing for getting girls to get apartments with him; he'd get them to come up with first and last. Then he'd take the money and run. This happened frequently when I was younger.

I feel bad saying this. A part of me still sees my brother when he seemed kinder, and like he had more of a conscious. But now I fear him. I won't even see him.