Same for me, some people are simply disgusted by this guy - this is the phrase I've heard very often since we broke up and people stated to talk to me again (I was incredibly isolated and just as in your case - I sort of did it myself). I didn't end up pregnant or anything, that would be a disaster - he'd probably leave me with this (which would probably be the best thing to do) but the idea that I could have a psychopathic child gives me chills. That's by far the worst that can happen:(. It certainly runs in his family, his grandpa was a child molester.

Sorry I just posted this earlier on another thread - I didn't know there is a female psychopaths thread open yet.

"We don't see many stories about female psychopaths because women psychopaths in general are very sexual and materialistic (they depend 100% on their husband) and appear as normal women in society. They more of the "Sexual Pyschopath" that dominates by spreading their legs wide and emptying the man's wallet (well this is one of the characteristic) not all materialistic women are psychopaths.

I am aware of one girl that seemingly IS a psychopath - what I notice in her case is that she talks as if she's holding a conference, she is a lawyer (ironically dead broke) she does not have any plans for her future, never had, has mentally ill friends, she is utterly and disgustingly attached to her mother and father, she would be dead without them, she is the output of probably a psychopath mom or dad (I am not sure which one of them is a psychopath, but I believe her mom is). Even though she is a lawyer she goes out in public dressed in dirty clothes, she is damn stupid, makes you nervous in 1 minute, it doesn't take more, she is very agitated, has a smirk on her face, when she laughs it's more of a devil's laugh, she is sort of forcing to laugh, she always talks about life, morality, and rules and never talks about life/her life.

I forgot to mention that she's 30.

She is a money predator, materialistic as you've never seen before (she doesn't have any luck though, too short and ugly) She judges everyone around her including her parents.
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XeXe

Thanks XeXe, was busy copying things to this new thread; )

Here are some interesting threads at the forum you might also find interesting.

It will be nice to have things combined to one reading/posting area as we get a lot of people who come here to read so hopefully this will encourage them to come forward and join the conversation.

The Female Psychoapth Thread

Can't Take it Anymore
This is a very detailed conversation by our member NoOne and is a very interesting look into what marriage to a female Psychopath is like with children involved.

Di

Thanks Dianne ;-)

Going to read it, I didn't read much about female psychopathy but can just imagine how the feminine version is like.

Xe

By the way, my Psychopath, although a male, was often perceived by people as very feminine or geyish and he so much reminds me of what DarthNollidge has to say about his Psychopath. Maybe there are actually more sex specific characteristics...

He was probably way too charming to the point where he looked like a woman rather than a man?

Not all men psychopath are charming, I wanted to point this out - the psychopaths in our family are not charming at all. Their look and facial gestures are so blunt to the point where they seem as they want to kill you or something, just by looking at you. My brother is not charming in his behavior either, he is more of the devil, very manipulative, demanding and sadistic (well with his girlfriend anyway) because no one has ever allowed him to behave sadistically not me and not my mom.

I do know quite a few people though that I believe are psychopath - they can be damn charming and very social, unlike my psychopath brother (he's rather anti-social and not charming at all)

A man is more serious by appearance not wearing a false grin on his damn face all day.

No, he's not grinning but he's super charming when he wants something from you. And he cares about his looks a lot, wears clothes that make him look in some eyes geyish, shaves his legs sometimes (I actually like when a guy takes care of himself but to some people it was too much) and in general feels a bit feminine, it's hard to describe.

Haha, I shaved my legs once :-)

I was feeling quite a bit of shame, since I am a bit skinny and it does look gay

Well, the psychopath I know doesn't shave his legs, but he can go from wearing shitted underwear to wearing Dolce & Galbana clothes and armani shoes, taking into consideration that he's dead broke most of the time. Whenever he has money, he gambles, he gambles and drinks.

Hi Darth, just read through your story in detail. Very scary indeed, thankfully you followed your instincts. I have seen a couple of shows where female Psychopaths have actually gotten caught killing their partners. I have also often wondered how many of them did it and got away with it. Poison seems to be the female weapon of choice. There is a type of poison which I won't broadcast that has only in the last years been one that there was a test for. I think if they do it right and there isn't a family to squawk to the police I bet a lot of them get away with it.

Glad you have joined us, plan to keep this thread open to discussion about female Psychopaths since we rarely have the opportunity to hear from victims of women Psychopath's.

I hope you can find peace and a loving spouse and family of your own. Luckily you have youth on your side. You are very right in saying it is lucky you never had children with her. I am remembering other posts over the years regarding female Psychopaths and will dig them up and post them here.

Di

Thanks, Dianne. Tip of the iceberg. I will share when I have enough time to spell it all out but I'll probably have to split it up. She went through four very distinct stages with me - love bombing, building trust, isolation, gas-lighting. We never got to the next steps in her plan because I ended things. I found out the truth about my psychopath because she alienated so many people. I tend to think of her as a socio path because she lacked charisma and cared little about her physical appearance. She didn't do well past first impressions with most people. My first impression of her was not good, and pretty dead on - I thought she was an arrogant jerk with a grandiose sense of self that her very average looks didn't warrant. She could be really attractive when she put effort into her appearance but this was something she rarely ever did. I disliked her and actively avoided her for months.

But she kept showing up.