hi everybody,
I've been researching online for awhile to try to figure out wtf is going on w/my extended family and friends. we come from a tightnit community where everybody knows everyone. Over the years, myself and my nuclear family have endured manipulation, verbal and emotional abuse, etc by our extended family and friends.
i have soooooo many examples to give you but let me narrow them down to a few. I've had rumours spread about me, family members staring at me from afar and laughing THEN come up to talk to me w/the biggest smile (mind you, i have 20/20 vision). passive-aggresive behavior from not showing up at a scheduled rendevouz to making sarcastic comments that are meant to hurt me (which they don't). i was introduced by my "friends" to this guy who was just like them and he managed to verbally and emotionally abuse me and humiliate me in front of my enemies and is proud of the fact that he made me cry and told everyone. (he's gone btw). mind you, my friends knew he was bad from the beginning and were laughing at me when i told them i broke up and didn't show any empathy whatsoever.
it's like they know that i'm not like them, but i guess they are trying to "break" me into either becoming them or just see me as an easy target since i don't speak up often. then again, just because somebody doesn't speak up doesn't mean they can't see or hear the crap that is going on around them. BUT, i have developed a defensive attitude where i don't let anyone's crap slide by me.
i think my problem is that i gave people the benefit of the doubt and that i gave it to the WRONG people. unfortunately, these are my extended family members and acquaintances. what i want to know is how the f can i ignore these people when i'm practically related to them? anybody want to adopt us? lol ok, seriously I AM FED UP w/them trying to label me and control my life and basically trying to put me 6 feet under!!! the only good thing about this whole situation is that all these years, I thought i was the one with the problem, I thought i was the one that was going crazy but until one day, I WOKE UP!! as a result, i have suffered from depression and extreme panic attacks. i have confronted some psychopaths in my family and they turned around w/crocodile tears claiming i was mean. any enlightement is strongly needed here!!!!! thank you!!

Hai Hic,
Somehow it is not very clear to me what you are asking. Maybe it is because I am not english from origine or maybe it is because it's just not very clear what you want to know?
First of all; are you sure you are on the right forum? This, what you talk about doesn't sound like psychopathy in my mind.... I could be wrong...read this right...But this is being bullied and having the wrong kind of friends...Their mentallaty seem to be off....That doesn't necessarally means they are psychopaths does it?
I noticed with some people that an attitude of being weak..even when that person isn't, trickers something in bystanders,and the reaction will be that people make fun of that person.
So maybe a change of attitude can help in this?
It is difficult for anyone to react on the question probably becuase you give very little information. The information that is given doesn't seem to be from psychopaths to me.
regards, Segaya

Hello Hic

I'm pleased Segaya responded to your post, I read it and also wasn't sure how we could help you so took some time to think about what you said.
Perhaps you can tell us more but I did wonder why you felt this forum was the right place to search for information.
Psychopathy is a very complex disorder and the word is misused so often that people tend to use it in the wrong circumstances.

This disorder is typical in approximately 4% of the population and if you feel more than that number in your environment is prevelant then I think it may be wise to look at the bigger picture.

I do hope that the picture you see is not what you think it may be.

Have you got a good friend you can share your problems with and know it will be kept in confidence?

Regards
Jan

ok when i was younger, i've heard that some of these individuals tortured and killed animals ranging from squirrels to their own pets. out of those individuals, 2 of them have been sexually assaulted.

my apologies, i accidentally hit the enter button. i'll get more personal and please give me your honest opinions. it's one person who i believe is a psychopath and he brainwashes others to believe he's good and that i'm "evil". can a psychopath have others participate in his will? i've been physically attacked 5 times by random strangers but after each attack, they would say, "don't mess w/so and so". (and i'm a girl) i've heard from outside sources that he actually paid these people to follow me at my work. recently, i saw one of my attackers w/the "psychopath" in a car. this makes sense because i saw the "psychopath" at a pharmacy to get my medication for the bruises from my attack and he had the biggest grin on his face when he saw me limping, it disgusted me. he has hacked into my home computer and laptop and later commented to me on material i had on my laptop like how i felt about the decline of marxism in mexico,,,I HAD A PAPER ON THAT EXACT TOPIC IN MY LAPTOP!!! about 5 years ago, i found out that someone messed with the brakeline in my car while it was parked in my driveway. i would be relieved if someone told me that this is not the sign of a psychopath, but just jealousy or whatever.

my apologies again with my previous post as i was not clear enough and embarrased that these things were happening to me. there's more but i'm mentally tired to even think of them. thank you!!

Hello Hic

As we know nothing of your circumstances it is very difficult for us to tell you anything. The usual advice is to get as far away as possible from the person/people causing you problems. If I could ask a few questions until you are ready to give us a better picture of what is going on and your living circumstances. We don't want to know anything that could identify you or where you live.

Have you informed the police of the assaults?
How was it possible ths person you suspect was able to get access to your computers?
Do you have a friend or family member you can rely on?
Why do you have contact with the person concerned, is it just because you live in a very small place?
Have you looked at Dr Hare's Psychopathy cehecklist?
Could this person have some other mental problem?
Are you being too available for this person?

Regards
Jan

1. yes i have notified the police of the assaults. i also notified the police of my attacker but "mysteriously" he vanished afterwards.
2. they asked one of my relatives for my email, the email said it came from my cousin but it was not, once i asked her. i took it to a pc repair shop later and they told me what i feared.
3. yes i do have someone i can rely on
4. i had contact w/this person because i do live in a very small area (again i haven't seen them in weeks since i recently went to the police and identified him as the attacker).
5. i will look at dr. hare's psychopathy checklist right now.
6. the past couple months, i tried my hardest to avoid this person, even shopping in another township. i do want to move once i have the financial needs.

thank u Jan